Maybe this is because you lacked confidence to reach out for it or maybe this is because you just we’re not sure it was right for you.

In this article I want to help you use lack of confidence as your indicator – showing you when you should clearly hold back and when you should go for it.

The first thing you need to get clear on is what you want. You need to know what your outcome is going to be. When I say this I don’t just mean in any old day-to-day situation, I mean in your life as a whole.

There’s an effective way to look at your life as a whole, gain clarity and boost your confidence all in one shot. Shall I share how with you?

There is nothing more effective in creating confidence than knowing how you want things to work out. When you do this you educate yourself. From point of knowledge you can make an educated decision and literally pivot your whole life from where you are now to your ultimate destiny… and all success and happiness you can imagine.

About 6 months ago, I set a goal that I viewed as impossible. But when I broke it down, I saw that it was very possible. The technique that I used was a mind map. The goal that I set for myself was responsibility. I spent many years completely dependent on my parents because of my many mental and physical challenges. My mother did all of my laundry, paid for my car insurance, and my gasoline. She cooked for me and even cleaned my room. When I finally decided that I was going to become responsible, it encompassed such a wide spectrum of things. I didn't even have a checking account much less a credit card.

In middle of my piece of paper, I wrote word responsibility and drew a circle around it. Then I branched it out into 5 categories: self-care, finances, personal relationships, career and education, and spiritual growth. This was beginning of my action plan. I'm going to use my finances as an example. I came up with a list of every action that I needed to take in order to change my financial situation. My list is as follows: