When setting goals for ourselves, it is absolutely essential that they are realistic. It is possible to achieve any goal no matter how big it seems. The key is to break it down into realistic doable portions.
About 6 months ago, I set a goal that I viewed as impossible. But when I broke it down, I saw that it was very possible. The technique that I used was a mind map. The goal that I set for myself was responsibility. I spent many years completely dependent on my parents because of my many mental and physical challenges. My mother did all of my laundry, paid for my car insurance, and my gasoline. She cooked for me and even cleaned my room. When I finally decided that I was going to become responsible, it encompassed such a wide spectrum of things. I didn't even have a checking account much less a credit card.
In middle of my piece of paper, I wrote word responsibility and drew a circle around it. Then I branched it out into 5 categories: self-care, finances, personal relationships, career and education, and spiritual growth. This was beginning of my action plan. I'm going to use my finances as an example. I came up with a list of every action that I needed to take in order to change my financial situation. My list is as follows:
Finances: Establish checking account Establish savings account take over gasoline bill take over car insurance payments Learn to balance checkbook Get a small secured credit card put $10 per week into savings Retain attorney for bankruptcy File for bankruptcy Save $5,000 for downpayment for new car Save $3,000 for furniture for apartment Save $2,000 for moving expenses/deposits Get apartment