Want to become one of most powerful and influential global businesswomen on planet? I do! Then dismount your Harley and start working on it. But first, you have to learn how to become a bad girl, because bad girls always finish first.
Break a Rule, Bad Girl
How do bad girls finish first? They act free, take on challenges, break rules. If you donít, itís over. Constantly learn and change, be persuasive, dare to be different, have extraordinary stamina and never stop imagining possibilities. The bad girl mantra is ďif you can imagine it, you can do it.Ē
Bad girls also know how to create teams of diverse people who are very loyal, yet also challenge and push their leader to achieve. And, they make sure that everyone remembers them as a bad girl because they donít care about being a good girl. Bad girls finish first.
Tying Knot, but not Around Your Neck
Do good girls think marriage moves them along in their career? Will having an ordinary, less than supportive spouse take away from their drive and initiative? Do they think that having children will bring out their softer, more sensitive side to being a businesswoman? Or will that be cause for tossing their desire to wind?
>From my own personal and professional lifestyle choices to those of top businesswoman Carly Fiorina, CEO of H-P, there will always be some good girl lurking in background criticizing us. Yet, name of game is to just live your life. Since Carly is a better bad girl than I am and more well known, letís zero in on her talents for a moment.
Grit, Guts and Luck
She has accomplished great things in business world; but when women size her up, they say she had this uncanny good fortune of working for one of few in America who made promoting women a top priority. Coincidentally, Carly also married a man who took early retirement and happened to have two children from a previous marriage. Many viewed this as a happy Ďinstantí family for Carly when, in fact, she most likely fell in love with a man and took on responsibility of nurturing a healthy relationship with his kids as well. Fortunately, with her smarts and ambition, she chose right man and right job for herself. Luck, guts, persistence and good timing made her life choices work for her in all respects. She chose to be a bad girl. Bad girls finish first.
Itís Not a Glass Ceiling -- Itís a Guyblock in Disguise
Remember saying, ďGinger Rogers did everything Fred Astaire did, but backwards.Ē Well, thatís us, bad girls! Now we just rev up our Harleys. The good girls let guys lead. The bad girls donít. They size up guys from head to just below waist. Theyíre an aggressive group that knows how to bust through a guyblock in disguise.
Whatís to fear? You can see through a glass ceiling, but not a guyblock. Itís rock solid and it holds you back, but not for long. Take your well-deserved seat in executive suite. Letís show them what weíre made of. Aim for results, nothing less. Fear lies in eyes of beholder, and that beholder becomes guyblock. Letís tackle and break their force. Go ahead, make their day. Good girls glaze at glass ceilings and forever wonder while bad girls tackle guyblocks. Be a bad girl.
Ambition -- Push Hard to Get to Top
I consider ambition to be something you canít live without. Like oxygen, itís something you need. To adjust your ambition to someone elseís lower level is to prepare yourself for death. Bad girls refuse to decrease their ambition, for it is a part of who they are.
Many times after completing an ďambitiousĒ project, I have been asked, ďWho told you that you could do that?Ē My response is ďme.Ē Itís considered extremely ambitious, by good girlsí standards, to take your life into your own hands and just do what you feel like doing without worrying about what people will say or think. I find it liberating to do this, and I hope you will too. Compelling ambition is when you decide to do what you want to do, regardless of support or knowing in advance outcome. Push hard. Donít take ďnoĒ for an answer. Be aggressive. Drive hard. Forget about what people think. Itís what YOU think that matters. Donít let other people's mediocre expectations of you become truth about your life.
You good girls out there who have self-doubts and poor self-esteem, listen up! The bad girls are going to help you. Bad girls know that ambition is about unlocking, unbottling and unleashing your energy to reach your full potential. Bad girls know how to make their mark. They maintain clarity and initiative and donít care about appearing combative -- they just do their jobs. You want to be a good girl? Fine, then youíre not going to get ahead, because bad girls always finish first.
Unabashed Immodesty -- Taking Center Stage
While doing a good job, good girls are scaredy-cats -- they are afraid to toot their own horns. What will people think? They never want to be improper or appear unladylike. God help them. Bad girls are energetic tigers -- they network like crazy, get jobs done and let whole world know about it. Get over your immodesty and shyness and proclaim your strengths with a sense of fury and fire. Call attention to your accomplishments, intelligence and emotions! Work hard at gaining recognition for your abilities! If you donít, who will? Be a bad girl.