Developing Communication Skills for Students

Written by Lieutenant Colonel Anil Kumar Nigam

Communication skills for Students

Have you readrepparttar story ofrepparttar 143321 jackal that fell intorepparttar 143322 washer man’s tub and was colored blue? Here I narrate it once again.

Once upon a time there lived a jackal that strayed into a city in search of food. He was hungry and was being chased by a group of dogs. He accidentally enteredrepparttar 143323 house of a dyer and fell into a vat of indigo (blue), and was stained blue from head to toe. When he escaped fromrepparttar 143324 house back intorepparttar 143325 forest, all animals were surprised at his appearance and could not place its identity. Taking advantage ofrepparttar 143326 situation,repparttar 143327 jackal decided to playrepparttar 143328 situation to his advantage. He proclaimed that he was Fierce Owl, sent byrepparttar 143329 king of Gods, Indra, to earth to guardrepparttar 143330 forest.

The gullible animals believedrepparttar 143331 jackal. The jackal then appointedrepparttar 143332 Lion as his Prime minister, tiger as his guardian ofrepparttar 143333 bedchamber andrepparttar 143334 elephant was maderepparttar 143335 doorkeeper. He then drove allrepparttar 143336 jackals out of sight fromrepparttar 143337 forest for fear of being recognized. The animals would hunt food and bring it torepparttar 143338 self-proclaimed king andrepparttar 143339 king would distributerepparttar 143340 food to all equally just as a king would do. So he was leading a life of luxury. One day a herd of jackals were passing by, howling to their glory. Unable to control his natural instinct, Fierce Owl showed his natural voice and howled atrepparttar 143341 top of his voice. Hearing this howl,repparttar 143342 animals realized that they had been fooled by a jackal and killedrepparttar 143343 jackal instantly. Had he not opened his mouth with out giving proper thought, he would not have been killed.

No body knows what you are tillrepparttar 143344 time you communicate with them. Your success or failure is entirely dependent on what impression you leave on others when you communicate with them.

Communication can be categorized as verbal and non-verbal even your gestures and body language can speak a lot and will be discussed in a later chapter. Here we will be talking aboutrepparttar 143345 first type and we will broadly discussrepparttar 143346 skills about which you, as a student are more concerned.

Good Communication Skills are essential

Being an effective communicator takes real skill. Communication skills have to be developed, honed and added to on an on-going basis. They arerepparttar 143347 heart of interpersonal skills andrepparttar 143348 greater your awareness of how it all works,repparttar 143349 more effective your communication will be.

To be effective in interviews or practical examinations you have to communicate well. Here we look at basic communication dynamics, learning skills to improve your communication, using effective communication to improve your personality and promote interpersonal skills.

Communication Core Skills - The Essentials

Communication is Individual: We’re not all The Same. When you look at communication, there is some thing more to merely possessing good presentation skills. Key for successful communication is to strike a good rapport with whom you are communicating. Everyone communicates differently and seesrepparttar 143350 world differently. The greatest skill you can have in order to instantly and significantly improve you communications skills is to understandrepparttar 143351 other person’s point view and how they seerepparttar 143352 world. Then you can adjust your own communication to take that into account.

You arerepparttar 143353 only one of you. There's never any one right way to communicate. Authentic effective communication always happens when we reply on those things we know to be true about or for ourselves. Remember your personal style probably says more for you that allrepparttar 143354 words you use can.

Interpersonal skills. Everything communicates. Remember! If you aren't clear about what you mean and what your intention is,repparttar 143355 other person (or people) could easily (and sometimes deliberately), misinterpret what you mean.

What you do matters, as much as what you say. It's now accepted thatrepparttar 143356 words account for only 7-11% of a communication. Your behavior will 'read' unconsciously to other people and you can certainly be more in charge ofrepparttar 143357 reading matter!

Language is one ofrepparttar 143358 most powerful reflections of how we think and feel about others and ourselves. You need to be aware ofrepparttar 143359 padding, justifications and excuses you use and whether they are appropriate. You can make a big impact simply by changing some of your language and developing your verbal skills, this way you can significantly improve your communication skills. Communication Cycle: There is a neat communication cycle which will help you to understand how to make communication work better. It means that you can take responsibility for every stage onrepparttar 143360 Communication Cycle. Typical Communication Cycle Spoken, , Heard , Understood , Agreed To, Acted On , Implemented

In a typical communication process one or more ofrepparttar 143361 above listed steps may be missing renderingrepparttar 143362 process ineffective and inefficient.

Be aware of where you, or others, tend to fall offrepparttar 143363 cycle, as that is where misunderstanding starts which eventually leads to many problems.

Improving Communication Skills

Attitude: You can changerepparttar 143364 direction of a communication if you change your attitude. There is no one attitude that'srepparttar 143365 'right' one to have, though being direct and clear certainly helps. Just listen to other’s point of view also and do not have fixed ideas. Be prepared to change your line of argument if necessary. Enough has already been said on attitude in chapter one which is considered adequate for purpose of this book.

Effective Listening and Responding: You can have tremendous influence on a communication asrepparttar 143366 listener andrepparttar 143367 responder. When we get little or no response fromrepparttar 143368 listener, we often project our assumptions onto them about what they are thinking (and usually we assume they aren't thinking good things about us!).

Be Positive: Use affirmation and encouragement to getrepparttar 143369 best out of any group that you may become member of. Notice when others do things well (even if it's part of their daily routine). This shows you're being attentive and considerate; most people respond well when they know that others are aware of what they do. This will do wonders forrepparttar 143370 students staying in hostels and becoming members of diverse groups. It is also important to have positive outlook about yourself and your achievements what ever these may be. Essential Communication Skills for students. As a student you have to pay special attention to following skills: - ·Listening ·Speaking ·Writing ·Reading

How to be an Effective Listener? Berepparttar 143371 kind of listener you want others to be when you are talking. Ask, “How would I want others to listen to me?” That’s how you can be an effective listener.


This isrepparttar 143372 most important and most feared of skill. Recent studies show that speaking in front of a group is by farrepparttar 143373 greatest fear of most people. Althoughrepparttar 143374 fear of speaking is common, studies show that one ofrepparttar 143375 most admired qualities in others is their ability to speak in front of a group. Furthermore, other things being equal,repparttar 143376 person who can communicate ideas clearly will be more successful. In order to speak well in front of any kind of audience one has to planrepparttar 143377 introduction, main body, concluding remarks, timings and mode of delivery among many of other considerations. The first consideration in planningrepparttar 143378 body of what you have to speak is how to organizerepparttar 143379 main points, but organization of sub points is also important. Arrangement ofrepparttar 143380 main points and sub points will help bothrepparttar 143381 speaker andrepparttar 143382 audience rememberrepparttar 143383 material—the speaker while speaking, andrepparttar 143384 audience while listening.

Letting Go of Control

Written by Suzanne Falter-Barns

Living your joy is more than justrepparttar tasks on your to do list. This article teaches you how to open your heart and make a quantum leap in your impact.

One ofrepparttar 143320 most wonderful aspects of living your dream arerepparttar 143321 unexpected gifts that appear alongrepparttar 143322 way. As many of you know, I have spentrepparttar 143323 winter writing a two-character musical which my partner and I will soon perform in various locations aroundrepparttar 143324 US and Canada. (See below.) what I have gotten from it is something I've known I needed since ... well, forever.

I've learned to open my heart.

Those who've been following my work probably think of me as a pretty open- hearted gal. And I am! Nothing makes me happier than to spread my Joy work and my platform work, send out inspirational messages, and generally buck up creative dreamers. However, there has always been a small chunk of my psyche that couldn't just relax and surrender. Instead, it's been dedicated to trying to manage and control my results and otherwise 'make' something happen.

Why? Because no matter how much I've spoken aboutrepparttar 143325 need to surrender to your process and 'not know', I've had trouble following this advice myself. As a psychic told me long ago, I would have all that I dreamt of ... but only when I opened my heart.

For a long time, I had no idea what 'opening my heart' would feel or even look like. I meditated about it and got nothing. I tried spiritual exercise programs, visualizations, drumming, and even acupuncture. Nothing worked.

And yet a decade later, as I dig intorepparttar 143326 'big dream' -repparttar 143327 one that has always seemed most challenging, most exciting, and most passionate - my heart has opened like a well-oiled door.

What I can feel is a new willingness to simply experiment, to put things out there and see where they go. Not as a test of my self-worth, but simply as an offer that might be accepted or rejected. And here'srepparttar 143328 beauty part: in my open-hearted state,repparttar 143329 result no longer matters. All that does is that I'm listening torepparttar 143330 guidance in my heart and taking each step alongrepparttar 143331 way.

When you're open-hearted you no longer need to understandrepparttar 143332 process; you operate from a gut level of passion and certainty. You know what needs to be done next, and that is truly all that matters. You truly give uprepparttar 143333 need to be successful, and so openrepparttar 143334 way to receive all that is meant to come your way. Beautifully, opening your heart is an act of supreme generosity with big pay-offs for you.

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