Developing A Positive Mental Attitude In The 21st Century

Written by Ian Bruce

We have all heard that positive thinking works miracles, and whilst that statement may be something of an exaggeration, it is true to say that positive thinking can go a long way to helping you change your life forrepparttar better. If you think in a positive way then you automatically begin to act in a more positive way, andrepparttar 137956 results you get in life are therefore more likely to be positive ones.

Developing a positive mental attitude isn’t something that can be achieved in an instant because your thoughts are usually habitual, and habits take time to change. However, you can make an immediate start in learning to think in a more positive manner by applyingrepparttar 137957 following principles:

#1 – Adopt A Positive Life Metaphor We all have different metaphors to encapsulate how we perceive life to be. Some people describe life as being a test or trial. Others view it as a grind or, even worse, as a bitch. Whilst we are all free to hold our own opinions, none of these particular metaphors are tremendously empowering, and if you believe that life is a test, trial, grind or bitch then in truth that is what you will perceive it to be in your own experience.

Adopt a more positive life metaphor and you can immediately improverepparttar 137958 way you perceive your life. View your life as a game and any problems your encounter will be perceived as challenges which you can overcome. Label your life a dream and you will find it easier to detach yourself from any negative emotions you might otherwise experience. Describe life as a party and you will usually increaserepparttar 137959 amount of fun you get from each day.

Changingrepparttar 137960 metaphor you use to describe your life won’t magically change what happens to you, but it will transformrepparttar 137961 way you perceive your daily experiences. This beingrepparttar 137962 case, make sure you set yourself up for success by adopting a positive life metaphor. Select one fromrepparttar 137963 list below or invent your own, and noterepparttar 137964 positive impact it has on your day to day life.

Life Is...

•A game •A dream •A ride •A gift •A stage •A party •A movie •An adventure

#2 – Seek Out The Positive We all know people who go through life seekingrepparttar 137965 negative side. These arerepparttar 137966 people who focus hard on finding reasons why nothing will work and why things will always go wrong instead. Tell them about your hard-earned promotion and they will tell you how tough it is to have so much responsibility. Tell them how much money you’ve saved and they’ll point out that it won’t buy you happiness. Tell them that you’ve metrepparttar 137967 love of your life and they’ll tell you that they give it three months.

The people who achieve and enjoy true personal success in life don’t do this. Instead they seek outrepparttar 137968 positive side of life as a matter of habit. When facing a problem they ask themselves, ‘How can I get something good from this?’ or ‘What can I learn from this experience?’ They viewrepparttar 137969 proverbial glass as half-full instead of half-empty. They take their eyes offrepparttar 137970 mass of any cloud and look instead forrepparttar 137971 silver lining which they know is always there.

Seeking outrepparttar 137972 positive side of life in this way might feel a little awkward at first - especially if you are used to focusing onrepparttar 137973 negative. However, if you practise this principle each day, then in a matter of weeks it will become second nature and you will wonder how you ever managed to live without it.

Simple ways to keep that spark in your relationship

Written by Johann Erickson

Even with our busy lives today we can still keep romance alive and our relationship going strong. The main thing is too not let yourself and your partner get into a rut.

Let them know that you love them in words and actions. A small kiss onrepparttar cheek before going to work, a note onrepparttar 137955 rear view mirror of their car, a small candy kiss placed beside their laptop withrepparttar 137956 simple words “I love you”. Just stopping on your way in from work to pick some wild flowers alongrepparttar 137957 road is a small way to let them know that you were thinking about them and love them. What about making time to get up earlier just one day to bring them coffee in bed before you both have to get ready for work? These are very simple ways to say how you feel.

If you are in a rut, plan a getaway. If you can not afford a cruise or a vacation at this time, create a special picnic and go torepparttar 137958 lake or park. Inrepparttar 137959 basket bring things like a bottle of wine, cheese and chocolates. Just laying in each others arms beside a lake or river can get you out ofrepparttar 137960 rut and back onrepparttar 137961 right track.

Make time to listen. All of us have a need to talk to and have an understanding shoulder to lean on. Men and women alike have this need. We all have stress that builds up and if no one is listening then you may decide you need to make changes in your life. You do not want your partner believing thatrepparttar 137962 change is leaving you because you did not takerepparttar 137963 time to listen.

Plan your future together. Remember when you were first dating and you both had all these dreams and ambitions, where did they go? They are probably still there but are being buried because of allrepparttar 137964 pressures that you both now feel. Sit down and talk about what has changed and how your goals and ambitions are today and plan how you can attain these couples as a couple. Planning your future together will fun and exciting.

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