Desperately Seeking Perfection

Written by John Boe

A working understanding of temperament styles (personality types) will have a profound impact onrepparttar way you perceive yourself and will greatly enhance all of your relationships. If you are a salesperson, this information will significantly increase your sales effectiveness by enabling you to build trust and rapport quickly with your prospects and customers. Business owners and managers find this knowledge invaluable. It can improverepparttar 126325 way you supervise your employees and allow you to recruit more effectively. As a parent, it can dramatically improverepparttar 126326 way you relate to your children. If you are single, it can provide you insight into selecting a compatible mate.

My temperament training system gives yourepparttar 126327 tools and knowledge to recognize a person’s primary temperament style through observation. Each primary temperament style exhibits a body language preference and has distinctive physical features and characteristics that are not related to gender, race, or age. This is a significant breakthrough inrepparttar 126328 study of temperament understanding because it is a practical system that can be used with everyone you meet. My temperament training program allows you to put this information to use in your day-to-day encounters fromrepparttar 126329 boardroom torepparttar 126330 kitchen table.

Hippocrates,repparttar 126331 father of medicine, has been credited with originatingrepparttar 126332 basic theory of temperament styles twenty-four hundred years ago. Hippocrates believed that we are born with a combination of four genetic influences that he called humors; Choleric (Worker), Sanguine (Talker), Phlegmatic (Watcher), and Melancholy (Thinker). He observed that these four styles have a direct influence on our physiology, character traits and outlook on life. While we are each born with a primary temperament, our personality is comprised of all four styles. The order, in which these four styles appear in your individual profile, createsrepparttar 126333 degree of influence they have on your thinking. For example, you might haverepparttar 126334 Thinker as your primary temperament style andrepparttar 126335 Talker as your secondary withrepparttar 126336 Watcher andrepparttar 126337 Worker as your third and fourth influence. There are six combinations for each ofrepparttar 126338 four primary temperament styles, which when combined, create a total of twenty-four individual temperament profiles. This article showcasesrepparttar 126339 Melancholy/Thinker primary temperament style.

The Thinker temperament style isrepparttar 126340 C, or Competent, inrepparttar 126341 D.I.S.C. temperament profiling system. Thinkers are introverted, private and shy by nature. They are logical and excellent problem solvers. Thinkers have an engineer’s mentality, strong analytical skills and a need to appear competent. They fear making a mistake or having their work criticized. Thinkers are loyal, conscientious and show restraint in their day-to-day work. They are introspective, aloof, pessimistic and moody. Overcast weather conditions will aggravate their mood by harmonizing with their melancholy nature. Thinkers project their emotion internally, rather than externally likerepparttar 126342 extroverted Worker or Talker. The sensitive Thinker is traditional, romantic, and enjoys diverse interests such as; acting, art, astronomy, cooking or grilling, dancing, horseback riding, music, nature, photography, poetry, reading, singing, science, and sports. Thinkers like quality products and pride themselves on doing competent research before making a decision. They are not impulsive buyers. In fact, they arerepparttar 126343 most difficult temperament to sell to because of their frugal and skeptical nature. It would be extremely rare for a Thinker to purchase something without having to first, “think it over.”

Thinkers have a compelling need for organization and order. They require time alone to plan and organize their activities and will normally work from a list. Thinkers love task accomplishment so much that they will add an already completed item to their list, just forrepparttar 126344 personal satisfaction of crossing it off. The ineffective management of time is one ofrepparttar 126345 greatest stress factors forrepparttar 126346 efficient Thinker. They are good at planning their time, but have a tendency to pack too much into their day. Their unrealistic expectations and drive for perfection can cause stress and feelings of inadequacy. They frequently experience feelings of guilt when they fail to accomplish all they had planned to do. They are researchers by nature and become overwhelmed and bogged down in details and information, resulting in “paralysis through analysis.” Their desire for perfection coupled with their need to avoid mistakes results in procrastination, which frequently leads to stress, anxiety, panic and depression.

Ofrepparttar 126347 four primary temperament styles,repparttar 126348 Thinker isrepparttar 126349 most susceptible to stress and depression. Under pressure their tendency is to become sarcastic, withdraw, worry excessively and want to quit. Their stress often manifests as migraine headaches and/or tension inrepparttar 126350 jaw, neck, shoulder and back. It is common for them to either grind their teeth or have TMJ. In his book, The Mindbody Prescription, Dr. John E. Sarno, “The Back Doctor” accurately describesrepparttar 126351 relationship betweenrepparttar 126352 Thinker's drive for perfection and stress:

“Virtually every patient I have seen inrepparttar 126353 course of my experience with pain syndromes has been to a greater or lesser degree perfectionistic. Patients who deny it then go on to describe how they are very fussy about neatness, cleanliness and other aspects of their lives. If they do not admit to being perfectionistic, they acknowledge that they are highly responsible, conscientious, concerned and prone to worry. They are usually ambitious, hard driving and self-critical; they set high standards of performance and behavior for themselves… I found that 88 percent of my pain patients had a history of minor gastrointestinal maladies such as heartburn, pre-ulcer symptoms, hiatus hernia, colitis, spastic colon, irritable bowel syndrome and other tension-induced reactions like tension headache, migraine headache, eczema and frequent urination. Although not all practitioners agree that these disorders are related to psychological or emotional phenomena, my clinical experience as a family physician and my own personal medical history made me quite comfortable with that conclusion… It was, therefore, logical to hypothesize that these back muscle pains might fall intorepparttar 126354 same group of emotionally induced physical disorders. When I putrepparttar 126355 idea torepparttar 126356 test, by telling patients that I thought their pain wasrepparttar 126357 result of “tension,” I was astonished to observe that those who acceptedrepparttar 126358 diagnosis got better. Those who rejected it remained unchanged.”


Written by Dr. Dorree Lynn


Passage from one stage, place, stage, or subject to another—so statesrepparttar dictionary definition—words that describe movement, but that say nothing of substance andrepparttar 126324 depth of human feeling. Nothing of nights spent tossing and turning, when craving sleep we lie awake, fighting our personal demons and feelings of failure. Or, terror resulting in knotted stomachs, shallow breathing, andrepparttar 126325 desire to remain in our comfort zone or to run far away. Neither does it tell of moments of quiet contemplation, contentment, and joy, feelings of accomplishment, even ecstasy andrepparttar 126326 delight change can offer. Transitions, be they small or large are rarely finite. With revisionist minds, we place timeframes aroundrepparttar 126327 experience. Perhaps we use a ritual such as a birth, wedding, illness, death, birthday, graduation, or a new newspaper editor to define these significant phases. I think, these transitions, life's ever in process changes, most often have ragged edges that bleed beyond our neatly bound boxes, starting before we are aware and morphing intorepparttar 126328 next process we call change.

Sometimes change is thrust upon us. Sometimes, it is cultivated by choice. But, almost always, it requires courage. Courage, I think, necessitates acceptingrepparttar 126329 journey as a challenging adventure that will pull some new knowledge, fresh wonderment, or innovative direction from us. We human beings, such creatures of habit, so rarely stay put. Much asrepparttar 126330 boomerang in Kubric's 2001 was tossed intorepparttar 126331 beyond; we too, often fling ourselves intorepparttar 126332 unknown.

As I age, I often think these kinds of thoughts. “Aging is no accident. It is necessary torepparttar 126333 human condition, intended byrepparttar 126334 soul. I think, perhaps to learn more aboutrepparttar 126335 integration of character and about love andrepparttar 126336 essence of relationships. Eros, of Greek mythology, wasrepparttar 126337 youngest ofrepparttar 126338 gods, but alsorepparttar 126339 eldest. Love (and sex) fromrepparttar 126340 ancient point of view, a view that I agree with, is ever changing requiring new learning every step ofrepparttar 126341 way.

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