Design Your Perfect LifestyleWritten by Davis Wood
We often fall into trap of thinking we have to wait until retirement to have our life be just right. (Of course, in retirement people often get bored.) So stop waiting! This article is written to help you design your ideal life. Then ask question: What would it take to have this NOW, or this year? If that's absolutely not possible (and it probably is, so look hard!), then you design a plan to reach that. Following is an extract of Perfect Lifestyle Program. (Better still, you can currently download full Program free of charge at www.life-coaching-resource.com Look for Design Your Life option.) Instructions: Print out following, and create a picture of your ideal lifestyle in following seven areas. Use questions as a guide and also add your own questions. Assume money is not an issue i.e. you have plenty. You can worry about HOW to get your picture later. Now dream! a) Self Care How many massages per week? How much drinking water per day? What kind of body? Exercise program? Diet? How much energy would I have? How many walks would I take? How much peaceful time/fresh air? How much sleep would I get? How do I dress? b) Home Environment Where would I live geographically? Which suburb? Which country? House/unit? On water? In country? Friendly community? Climate? What would my bedroom look like? My yard? How tidy is house? Do I have a cleaner? Someone who shops for me? Does washing? What car do I drive? c) Relationship From your partner, do you want a commitment for life, or a commitment for now? What kind of commitment do YOU want to make? Do you want an exclusive relationship, or one where you explore other relationships? To what limits? Kids? What's your ideal sex life? d) Friends and Family How many friends do you want in your life? Do they drop by spontaneously, or set up weeks in advance? Do your friends know your other friends? Are they rich? Interesting? Creative? Warm and Open? Or busy and stressed? Ideally, how would your relationship with your mother look? Father? Siblings? (Don't let your history block you here. Create 'ideal' relationships!
| | HappinessWritten by Laurent Grenier
What is happiness? If we mean by it a state of fulfillment, when everything is going our way, in terms of results as well as efforts (which requires a providential combination of pluck and luck), then it cannot simply be willed; it is partly, if not largely, a gift of fate.Having said this, even this sort of happiness is a product of positive thinking and positive action, with good fortune lending a helping hand. In short, it is a product of will in relatively favorable circumstances. But isn't it peculiar to imply that happiness can be of one sort or another? Are there not simply happiness and unhappiness? I think not. The sort of happiness that sage talks about is compatible with misfortune. It is preeminently a doing from within – while without, only prerequisite for it is that sage be alive and capable of thought. It is a feeling of serenity, of being at peace with his situation and his conscience, as a well-adjusted and fully committed servant of life, of humanity, of God as he sees them. However conscious he is of subjectiveness – i.e., individual limitations and hence imperfection – of his view, he does live by it with utmost faithfulness, if also with a willingness to reevaluate it critically when he catches himself out in a misstep. His wisdom is forever a work in progress; it is always laced with some form of foolishness, which leaves him open to ridicule. Humility and compassion, plus humor are therefore qualities that he cultivates. He mocks and forgives himself, and above all strives to improve. He shows no complacency, but an acceptance of his humanness that he is intent on bringing to highest possible degree of truth and nobility. And this delicate blend of resignation and struggle alone – in any situation, favorable or not – is indeed secret of his happiness, which admittedly is a dry manner of joy that fills mind rather than heart. It follows that this happiness leaves something to be desired: happiness in fullest sense of word (a state of fulfillment, when everything is going our way, in terms of results as well as efforts), which is a joy, ever so sweet, that fills both mind and heart. When sage experiences this supreme happiness, he rightly feels blessed, and knows how precarious it is. Furthermore, he accepts this precariousness, or fact that suffering and ultimately death loom ahead. Only battles are won in war of life that will inevitably – despite every valiant effort to prevail – end in defeat.
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