Dear Tech SupportWritten by Dr. Dorree Lynn
Last year I upgraded from Boyfriend 5.0 to Husband 1.0 and noticed that new program began making unexpected changes to accounting modules, limiting access to flower and jewelry applications that had operated flawlessly under Boyfriend 5.0. In addition, Husband 1.0 uninstalled many other valuable programs, such as Romance 9.9 but installed undesirable programs such as NFL 5.0 and NBA 3.0. Conversation 8.0 no longer runs and Housecleaning 2.6 simply crashes system. I've tried running Nagging 5.3 to fix these problems, but to no avail. Desperate Dear Desperate, I regretfully inform you that technical problems you raise often come with system purchased. Evidently you did not look around at similar systems or read fine print prior to making your purchase. Many in your situation try quick solutions, immediately try other systems, are driven to drink or in total frustration simply trash current system. Unfortunately our current state of technology remains limited and whatever your upgrades, there are always glitches. I recommend you get technologically proficient with what you have, learn every default capability you can and keep clicking buttons until one works. If your system crashes, wait. Sometimes you may have to turn off machine and give it a rest. Miraculously, for unknown reasons, glitches may disappear. Another tool to use with your new upgrade is patience. I understand this is not what you bargained for, but it helps. There are times system will right itself if you simply wait long enough. And, trust me, you will never know why.
| | Motherhood And MadnessWritten by Dr. Dorree Lynn
When her husband suddenly walked out on her, my friend Barbara was a very young mother of four children between ages of two and six. Her husband had become addicted to pot and their marriage had begun to disintegrate. Barbara was a “good girl” and she had sixteen years of perfect attendance Sunday School pins to attest to this fact. She had left college to marry her childhood sweetheart, and a family was soon on way. No money and sudden single motherhood almost threw her over edge.Depressed, scared and overwhelmed, she found herself filled with feelings hitherto unfelt. Her nerves were frayed, she wanted to scream and when children screamed she wanted to shut them up any way she could. Terrified that she would harm her children, she would lock herself in a closet until she could regain control of her feelings. I was always impressed by her ingenious solution. Barbara had no family and no support in neighborhood. In desperation, when she could muster energy, she would pack all four children on a bus and visit her ailing mother for what minimal help and solace her mother could offer. Days seemed dark and there were many nights where Barbara would have just as soon not seen next day. She had no job skills, so she went on welfare to survive. With little money that she was able to scrounge, she found a therapist tohelp her. “Dorree,” she once told me, “If I could find money to get professional help, anyone can. Don’t ever let any one tell you otherwise.” It was a lesson I learned well. According to Barbara, therapy saved her life. Slowly, she began to function and closet no longer seemed only hope of saving herself and her kids. This event had happened many years ago, before advent of drugs, and support groups and even religious outreach programs. Pretty much all alone, Barbara began to rebuild her life and to mother her children. Eventually she remarried.
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