Dealing with Mr.CharismaWritten by Peter Murphy
Do you ever find yourself in situations where you feel overwhelmed by person who is speaking to you. It is as if their charisma and enthusiasm takes over and you just cannot seem to think for yourself. For a moment you are lost in a blur of their words.
The worst part is fact that you cannot seem to regain composure or even assert your own opinion. What is solution?
How to assert yourself in face of a wave of charisma:
1 Break Rapport
What? Yes, break rapport but do so gently by adjusting your posture and by changing your rate of breathing. Mr.Charisma has you locked into deep rapport with his every word and every movement.
Until you regain your own pace, your own natural breathing rhythm and your own posture you will be subject to his lead.
Notice how you feel in your body, put some of your attention back onto yourself. Only then will you be able to think for yourself and to form your own opinions.
2 Filter The Words
Once you have regained a sense of how you feel and think in present moment it is time to filter words that Mr.Charisma speaks so eloquently. A filter will help you to maintain this sense of self and ability to think for yourself.
A visual filter is easiest for some people. Imagine a wall in air between you and him, a wall that filters words so that you only hear words without feeling drawn into his world.
The First Step to Real Success Written by Wendy Hearn
Do you want to have success? Do you want to feel a successful person? Success is what many people are striving for. Success is deemed to be ultimate goal to strive towards. That's fine to a degree, because we all need to head towards something worthwhile. However, one of problems I've noticed is that, although many people say they want success, they can't define it clearly. Their definition of success is vague.
People tend to measure success in material possessions or monetary terms. Typically by statements like, "When I'm a millionaire I'll feel successful" or "When I have a top of range luxury car I'll know I've reached success." Success is often put on a pedestal, at a distance. All too often, before these goals are reached, they're extended. It's almost as if closer they get to success, further away they move goal posts.
When we define success, we often compare ourselves to others. It's too easy to look at another person's perceived success and think if we had that as well, we would be successful. We strive for possessions others have in order to experience success. If we don't get them, we feel a failure. Or we get these material possessions and then discover that having them isn't all it's cracked up to be, so we still don't necessarily feel successful. When you compare yourself to others you're likely to be left feeling a failure. When your idea of success comes down to money or material possessions, you often wake up and realise there's something missing in your life. Success is about much more than that.
I'm not suggesting you forget monetary aspect of success, because this is certainly a part of it. But it is only a part. True success encompasses all areas of your life and when you measure all of them, your success will be more balanced. The different areas of your life to consider are: Physical environment Health Friends/Family Work Partner/Relationship Fun/Recreation Personal Development Finances.