Dealing with Difficult People: the Idealist

Written by Susan Dunn, MA, Emotional Intelligence Coach


True idealists (as defined by Keirsey) make up only about 1/10th ofrepparttar population, which you may think is a good thing if you’rerepparttar 130012 hard-driven, nose-to-the-grindstone, bottom-line type.

Like other "difficult" types, they can make fantastic contributions to your relationship or organization if you understand how to deal with them and their lack of practicality.

As Keirsey (www.keirsey.com) defines them, "educationally they go forrepparttar 130013 humanities, avocationally for ethics, and vocationally for personnel work." They're people who are guided by ideals, and are more interested in ideas than practical action. This can make them both slow out ofrepparttar 130014 gate, and agitators if they thing something is "wrong."

1. They will ferret out unethical behaviour.

Therefore, if you intend to hire one, you'd better have your ducks in a row and your ethics together (if you don’t, why don’t you?). Onrepparttar 130015 other hand, if you have a multicultural or diversity program to introduce, they would berepparttar 130016 ones to do it, and they’ll also know who’s mobbing, harassing and bullying others.

2. Translate abstract to concrete for them.

They tend to be highly intelligent as well as intellectual and abstract. This means they may know what they want, and even how they'll get there (many are great strategists), but be either unable to explain it to others, or too impatient. Either trust them to accomplish what you ask them to do their own way, or ask them specifically for step-by-step methods.

3. Don't underestimate their power of influence. They aren't light-weights.

Like many "difficult" types, they represent something within us all. Idealists appeal because they have a light that shines. They're interested in a better world, after all, and so are we, but who's gotrepparttar 130017 time?

Consider Gandhi whose "nobly principled, highly disciplined, courageously ethical strategy of non-violent passive resistance . eventually broughtrepparttar 130018 British to their knees." (Source: Keirsey)

So keeprepparttar 130019 Idealist channeled and be watching your ranks. If you're playing fast-and-loose, they'll berepparttar 130020 one to challenge it, and you’d rather have them coming to you than just talking about it. If you can institutionalize such a program – how things are done, and how people are treated –repparttar 130021 idealist would be ideal (smile) for this position. One US insurance corporation has an ethics hotline, for instance, and someone was put in charge of it. Perhaps an idealist.

Need to Change Something?

Written by Susan Dunn, MA, Emotional Intelligence Coach


“Need to change something?” you ask. “Isn’t it enough that everything around me is changing so fast I can’t keep up?”

I see and hear it allrepparttar time. People starting to say something, then stopping, shaking their head and saying, “It isn’t like it used to be.” You may agree with Michael Fry and T. Lewis who said, in “Overrepparttar 130010 Hedge, “ “the more things change,repparttar 130011 more they remain … insane.”

A common reaction to this is to knuckle down and try and keep as muchrepparttar 130012 same as you can, while atrepparttar 130013 same time, lamentingrepparttar 130014 changes going on around you. It leaves us, I’m afraid, beating out heads against a brick wall. We become rigid in reaction to allrepparttar 130015 change going around. More determined than ever to fight it.

But isn’t there a better way? If change has becomerepparttar 130016 norm, wouldn’t it be wise to become change proficient? Isn’t it better to light a candle than to curserepparttar 130017 darkness?

To become change-proficient, first of all you have to want to. This may berepparttar 130018 hardest part of all. It means recognizing that things are changing, and are going to, and acceptingrepparttar 130019 idea. Eventually you can come to embrace it. It requires developing some Emotional Intelligence skills, such as resilience. This means being able to bounce back! Yes, you can want things to stayrepparttar 130020 same, and will them to, and do what you can about it, but some things won’t, and that’s when resilience comes in. It means being able to face loss, rejection and setbacks – which is one way to define “change” – with aplomb. Dealing withrepparttar 130021 loss, but coming back with enthusiasm and hope forrepparttar 130022 future.

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