Self Help: Dealing With Negative People Made Easy

Dealing With Negative People Made Easy

Written by Peter Murphy

I was playing tennis today with one of my tennis buddies. We play once a week and we usually chat about work, professional tennis players and local news.

Today he was very negative about repparttar people of repparttar 129663 area we live in. According to him they are all thieves and crooks.

Now this makes me really angry when I hear him talking like this since I have had very positive experiences with repparttar 129664 people I have dealt with locally. I find repparttar 129665 locals to be very friendly, helpful and considerate.

So we disagree on repparttar 129666 facts. What can I do about his negative thinking? What can you do when dealing with negative people?

Three Ways To Deal With Negative People

1 Get specific

When someone is caught up in negative thinking they will often generalize their statements. It is a good idea to ask them questions to clarify what they mean.

For example if my friend says all dogs are aggressive I will ask him:

Small dogs or big dogs? All dogs or certain breeds? According to who? In what kind of situations?

By doing this you can shift repparttar 129667 perspective of repparttar 129668 negative person from a generalized over reaction to a highly specific opinion. This will ease some of repparttar 129669 negativity and repparttar 129670 intensity of their outburst.

What People Are Really Interested In & How to Win Friends

Written by Peter Murphy

A lot of your people problems and concerns about what other people think will fade into repparttar

background when you understand one crucial reality.

Most people are interested in you only to repparttar 129661 extent they can get something from you.

I know this sounds harsh. Bear with me a moment while I explain.

Apart from your family and closest friends most other people see you as either a hindrance or as a means to getting what they want.

If you can help them get what they want they will smile at you, say you are wonderful and do whatever they can to keep you happy and available in repparttar 129662 future.

On repparttar 129663 other hand if you stop being a means to repparttar 129664 fulfillment of their needs these very same people may well shun you, insult you and have nothing to do with you.

Let me give you an example. You meet someone special and you date. Things progress and a few weeks later you are both in love and life has never been better. You are repparttar 129665 center of repparttar 129666 universe for that person and whatever you desire is immediately granted with a smile.

Fast forward three months and repparttar 129667 same person is screaming down repparttar 129668 phone at you, saying how useless you are and never to call again! What happened? How could something so good go so wrong?

In very simple terms you went from satisfying repparttar 129669 other persons emotional needs to not satisfying them. And repparttar 129670 extreme change in how they treat you is because of what I said at repparttar 129671 beginning of this article:

Most people are interested in you only to repparttar 129672 extent they can get something from you.

Whereas in repparttar 129673 early days of repparttar 129674 relationship you attended to all of repparttar 129675 other persons needs as time passed you grew complacent and things slipped to repparttar 129676 point that key needs went unsatisfied.

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