Date LyingWritten by Margaret Paul, Ph.D.
The following article is offered for free use in your ezine, print publication or on your web site, so long as author resource box at end is included, with hyperlinks. Notification of publication would be appreciated.Title: Date Lying Author: Margaret Paul, Ph.D. E-mail: mailto:margaret@innerbonding.com Copyright: © 2005 by Margaret Paul URL: http://www.innerbonding.com Word Count: 765 Category: Relationships Date Lying By Margaret Paul, Ph.D. A reader of my articles wrote to me about article I wrote entitled, “Why do People Lie?” He said that he would be “very interested in a similar article with examples about all lying that women do….At least in initial stages of dating, women lie sooooo much.” Well, being a woman, I’m not as aware of how much women lie on dates as I am of how much men lie on dates. So I decided to write about date lying in general. The man who wrote to me was upset about lies such as “I have to go,” or “I’m busy,” or “I’m on another call right now. I’ll call you back.” He states that “I think that much of this is women’s very misguided attempt to ‘spare someone’s feelings.’ Reject them, without actually rejecting them.” I think this is accurate. Women have been trained to not hurt men’s feelings. They have been taught that if truth will hurt, then tell a “white lie.” And, when they do tell truth, it is often in a harsh or critical way. I’ve often counseled women, who don’t want to date a particular man, to say things like, “I don’t feel romantic toward you,” or “There doesn’t seem to be chemistry between us,” or “I’m not feeling a connection with you.” One of my clients told a man who called her for a first date, “Your energy does not feel respectful toward me. I’m not drawn to meet you because of this.” He was open to what she was saying and they ended up having a good conversation. He was appreciative of her truth, and she ended up going out with him. Since men are usually ones doing calling, they are not as often put in position of say no. My experience is that men often lie too, but in different ways. For example, a client of mine, a psychotherapist, dated a man who told her he was in therapy. She was pleased to hear this, as personal growth was very important to her. She later discovered that he was in therapy because court had mandated it due to him having punched his ex-wife in stomach while she was pregnant. She found this out through ex-wife. His avoidance of truth was an attempt to impress her and control how she felt about him.
| | Keys to prosperityWritten by Sam Stevens
Is it possible to get rich quick using power of your mind? Sometimes, I think only people getting rich are authors of bestsellers with titles such as "Simply Abundant, Creating Prosperity and Miracle Power For Infinite Riches". However, we keep buying these books, because most of us have also experienced first-hand consequences of a law of nature: do a good deed and it comes back to you. Do something mean and it comes right back at you to slap you in face. Many of our minor wishes seem to come true -- "I'd like to have soup for dinner", or " Please let that cheque arrive in time to cover rent." So why is it that when we try to mentally will more money into our lives, kind of abundance that would have us set for life, that our mental powers seem to fail? After perusing pages of over twenty self-help bibles by such gurus as Paramanansa Yogananda, Deepak Chopra, Laura Day, Paul Pearson, Thomas Moore, Wayne Dwyer, Shakti Gawain, John Randolph Price, Karen Kingston, Sanaya Roman, Anne Marie Evers, Elizabeth Clare Prophet, Victor Boc and Lynn Grabhorn, I came up with these basic keys to prosperity. 1. You have to get de-program yourself from believing that Money is The Root of All Evil. This negative image is so firmly planted in our subconscious, that we may even feel guilt if we do get a lot of money, and seek ways to dispose of it as fast as possible. 2. Love your bills. According to Sanaya Roman, author of "Creating Money" receiving a bill is evidence of universe's faith in us to pay them. Authors such as Shakti Gawain and Wayne Dwyer even suggest kissing your bills. Putting them in a prominent place and practicing gratitude for receiving them, as they are evidence that abundance is freely circulating in our lives. 3. Apparently Universe is not that fond of those of us who try too hard. Paul Pearson in his book "Wishing Well" talks about a kind of backlash that happens when we wish too long and too hard for something. He says that universe picks up our desperate vibes and brings us even more desperation. So if you're thinking "I want more money" universe will put you in situations that have you saying again and again "I want more money". When you think about money, you are never supposed to express current lack of it or use phrases like "I need" or "I want". You're much better off saying something like "Millions of dollars are coming to me as I speak". Likewise, Lynn Grabhorn in "Excuse Me Your Life is Waiting" also advises you to try and resonate with positive vibrations by constantly being in a good mood and thinking only happy thoughts. Anne Marie Evers in "Affirmations" also constantly stresses importance of thinking of yourself as being rich, even if you are as poor as church mouse.
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