How would you know if this is true for you? There are many indicators. Foremost among them is that you go home from work each day...EACH day...feeling frustrated. You may not even be able to pinpoint what it is about your work that leaves you with this feeling but, it's there...and it's mounting.

A close second to frustration is reluctance to go to work in morning. Sounds simple, doesn't it? This is more than your garden variety reluctance. It persists. Sunday nights a cloud seems to be gathering over your head as you consider Monday morning. You may feel tension rising in your body. You know, your shoulders making their way persistently towards your ear lobes.

You feel misunderstood or undervalued at work. Although you bring excellent skills and experience to company, you are asked to do things that do not allow you to shine...repeatedly. Certainly, you know that you must continuously develop and adapt your style to fit changing economic, legal and workplace cultures. If you are asked to change, your style, though, you may very well be in wrong place for your success and well-being.

Sometimes, you may need to shift your style to meet needs of certain situations. Though uncomfortable, everyone needs to be somewhat flexible most of time. The good news about generally retaining your flexibility is that when you do need to remain firm, folks know you are very serious. This is a good thing.

What needs do you want met by your work? Of course, each style has its challenges and 'stretches'. Let's look at four major styles.

Do you prefer to be visionary? You like to have a new idea, think it through until you know that it can be accomplished and, then, pass it on to someone else to do. If so, it is likely that you are also intolerant of excuses or reasons why deadlines for its completion are not met. True?

Do you really like to sink your teeth into an issue and wrestle it to ground? You like to gather facts and parameters and create solutions to difficult problems. If so, it is also likely that you are also a bit of a perfectionist, unwilling to say that you are finished with your solution. Why? Because, with just a few more facts, you could find a more perfect solution.

Are you at your best when you are establishing and nurturing relationships? You consider yourself a real 'people person' and you will go out of your way to find solutions that keep most people happy. You are very uncomfortable if folks around you are not kept happy. If so, it is likely, too, that you find it difficult to make tough decisions regarding clients’ and co-worker's needs and wants.

Do you like to be one who collects and conserves facts, research, background for a project or department? Folks have to come to you for answers, and, they can depend on you to have them at hand. If so, it is likely that you would prefer there to be no one else who could provide them but you. Your power can be exercised then by withholding information.

There is a single mental move you can make which, in a millisecond, will solve enormous problems for you. It has potential to improve almost any personal or business situation you will ever encounter, and it could literally propel you down path to incredible success. We have a name for this magic mental activity ... it is called DECISION.

Decisions or lack of them are responsible for breaking or making of many a career. Individuals who have become very proficient at making decisions, without being influenced by opinions of others, are same people whose annual incomes fall into six and seven figure category. However, it's not just your income that is affected by decisions; your whole life is dominated by this power. The health of your mind and body, well-being of your family, your social life, type of relationships you develop … all are dependent upon your ability to make sound decisions.

So, how is a person expected to develop this mental ability? Quite simply, as commercial says, "Just do it." Decision making brings order to your mind, and of course, this order is then reflected in your objective world ... your results.

Indecision sets up internal conflicts that can, without warning, escalate into all out mental and emotional wars. Psychiatrists have a name to describe these internal wars - ambivalence. My Oxford Dictionary tells me that ambivalence is co-existence in one person of opposite feelings toward same objective.

You do not require a doctorate degree in psychiatry to understand that you are going to have difficulty in your life by permitting your mind to remain in an ambivalent state for any period of time. The person who does permit it to exist will become very despondent and virtually incapable of any type of productive activity. It is obvious that anyone who finds themselves in such a mental state is not living; at best, they are merely existing. A decision or a series of decisions would change everything.

A very basic law of universe is "create or disintegrate". Indecision causes disintegration. How often have you heard a person say, "I don't know what to do." How often have you heard yourself say, "What should I do?" Think about some of indecisive feelings you and virtually everyone on this planet experience from time to time. Love them; leave them. Quit, stay. Do it, don't do it. Buy it, don't buy it. Tell them, don't tell them.

Everyone, on occasion, has experienced these feelings of ambivalence. If it happens to you frequently, decide right now to stop it. The cause of ambivalence is indecision, but we must keep in mind that truth is not always in appearance of things. Indecision is a cause of ambivalence, however it is a secondary cause, it is not primary cause. I have been studying behavior of people who have become very proficient at making decisions for over a quarter century. They all have one thing in common. They have a very strong self image, a high degree of self-esteem. They may be as different as night is to day in numerous other respects, but they certainly possess confidence. Low self-esteem or a lack of confidence is real culprit here. Decision makers are not afraid of making an error. If and when they make an error in their decision, or fail at something, they have ability to shrug it off. They learn from experience but they will never submit to failure.