DONT WE ALLWritten by Daniel nzenwata
One evening I was leaning on bonnet of a BMW car parked in front of a fast food joint. I had just come out of this particular one, my friends and I had gone to eat inside.I had come out first and was waiting for them to join me so that we could go back to home.It had been a very tiring day for me ,all I wanted was to go home, take a shower and rest my back on softness of my bed. On impulse I turned to look over my shoulder, coming my way from across parking lot was what society and I would consider a bum. From looks of him, obvious was stated; he had no car, no home, no clean clothes, and no money. There are times in a day when you feel generous but there are other times when you just don't want to be bothered. This was one of "Don't want to be bothered" time for me. "I hope he doesn't ask me for money," I whispered half aloud to myself. And He didn't.Maybe he had heard me and maybe not. He came and sat on curb in front of parking garage, I looked at him closely, and from his appearance he didn't look like someone who had money to even afford a bus ride to God knows where he had come from. He kept starring at car, his eyes moving to and fro, like he was relishing thought of owning one. After a few minutes he finally spoke. "That's a very nice car," he said. Although he was ragged, he had an air of dignity woven around him. And this revelation startled me.I said, "Thanks," and continued looking towards door, anxiously waiting for my friends to come out so that I could be rid of him. He sat there quietly as if reading my thoughts and waiting for me to ask him to go away, yet I remained silent, waiting for usually plea for money to come. The expected plea never came. As silence between us widened something inside said, 'ask him if he needs any help.' I was sure that he would say yes, but I held true to inner voice. "Do you need any help?" I eventually asked him. He answered me in three simple but profound words that I shall never forget. Most times, we often look for wisdom in great men and women. We expect it often from those of higher learning and accomplishments. Today I was thought a lesson. A lesson I am hoping someone else would learn too. I expected nothing but an outstretched grimy hand, but it never came. Rather he spoke three words that shook my body from my head to my toes.
| | Ready For the “R” Word?Written by Advice Diva
Spring is in air. The whole world comes alive with flowers, new life, new smells, warm weather and discernible increase in libido of singles crowd. Whether or not there is a direct genetic urge to mate during a specific season, everyone wants to date more in spring. More often than not, this is time when new love can take a hold of you and before you know it you are dancing like a cliché through puddles and singing in rain better than Gene Kelly. This feeling of utter bliss may cause some of you to even contemplate “R” word – a Relationship.There are so many different levels that single person may be on in their life regarding dating and relationships. The level you are on can affect your level of readiness for a relationship. For example, some singles have been serial daters for years refusing to enter a real relationship out of fear of rejection or simply because they love to be single and free of drama and anguish which relationships may cause. Some singles have been searching for a relationship too hard and end up scaring any potential mates away with that instant cling action. Other single men and women have recently been removed from a relationship and they are on rebound. Others still are happy being single but will gladly enter a relationship if only perfect specimen would cross their path. And then of course some of you are thinking, “Well, I've had my fill of parties, clubbing and one night stands for past ten years, my looks are fading, I might as well start next part of my life, get married and have kids pretty quick”. Obviously a person needs to be in right frame of mind and right part of life to try and enter a relationship. You should be mature enough and old enough for a relationship. Your self esteem should be high and you should not feel as if you need a relationship to make you feel better about yourself. You should be able to take care of yourself emotionally and financially and not need to depend on your significant other to take care of you completely. You should be free from past trauma and hurt. And you should be ready to enter a relationship only when you feel you have met right person. Finally, you should only enter a relationship if you are truly in love. If you do not fill all of requirements above, you might want to do a little work on yourself before focusing on someone else and a relationship. And if you feel that you do embody right stuff for a committed relationship, there are even more factors that you will want to think about.
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