It is so important to know how to motivate ourselves in an effective manner and in a desirable direction. Throughout life we continually struggle between dual forces of what we say and what we do. So, I ask you, what would you pay for a personal formula that would turn all your words into action? A Kid After My Own Heart!
I was in a mall one day and saw a little child say to his father, "daddy, if you say please, I'll let you carry me". And, of course father reached down with a big smile and picked up his son. Who could resist? I gave some thought to that scene and here are some things I considered.
Could that father have reacted differently? Probably! But little boy didn't realize it but he went directly to source of motivation. Right on spot that kid turned his dad into putty in his hand.
I marveled as I watched this little kid motivate his father. Not motivating himself, but motivating his father. I think there is a key here.
Under His Thumb!
It was words little boy used to get free ride he wanted. It's words we use on ourselves that get us our free ride or, just another pain in neck. The little boy could have stomped his foot and demanded to be picked up. That would probably not have motivated his father, or, at least motivated him in wrong direction.
The right words bring motivation, wrong words bring resistance. When right words bring motivation, they bring confidence. It relaxes our defenses and we let our guard down. And then, we stop spending emotional energy to protect ourselves from possible failure. Instead we use that energy to reach for probable rewards of success.
Say it And then Write it!
Anyone who writes a letter affects subconscious mind of person reading it through suggestion. A person may not accept your advice when given to them verbally. Many times because advice does not come over as a sincere suggestion, it comes across as orders. And, then they ball up like a knot.
At that moment, timing may be dead wrong for other person to accept what you say emotionally. Perhaps only thing he can think about at moment is; he is a day late and a dollar short and your suggestions to him are about as interesting as two blind men having a conversation in a foreign language. You're trying to philosophize him, and He is facing all out war and sees you as slow as molasses in January.
But, that same person would accept a well written and sincere letter you write to them with open arms. If properly written it would be read over and over, studied frequently and digested. Ok, so what's point?
Here it is. To write a letter you have to think. You have to formulate your ideas and put them on paper. And when you discover something you're about to write stinks, you can back off and change it. And, things you say direct other person's mind, and your own, in direction you want it to go.
Just Call A Spade A Spade!
Example: all these articles, that I write, are words that I share with you in hopes of motivating you. Some things that I say are controversial and most people would not write such things. But, people accept it from me and realize that's just way I am. They know that I love all of you and just trying to help and, I do it through my own silly style and backhanded compliments.
I have noticed that even when I read something I've written it has more of an impact on me emotionally. Not, because I wrote it, but because I'm reading it. The power of written word on our minds is very motivating.