As we enterrepparttar new millenniumrepparttar 132493 Internet is evolving into a major meeting ground, one that affords us access to people all overrepparttar 132494 world and draws us daily into online relationships with individuals we have not yet met. An increasing number of people are usingrepparttar 132495 Internet to meet and get acquainted with potential mates.

While many of those online interactions do bloom into friendships and relationships, a small number do not have happy endings Beth Wadsworth learned this lessonrepparttar 132496 hard way. When Wadsworth began exchanging emails with Thomas Abney, she thought she, too, might have found love onrepparttar 132497 Internet. It turns out that what she had really found was a dangerous man who would try to kill her.

Wadsworth met Abney in 1999 while surfingrepparttar 132498 Web. The two hit it off and began corresponding. "We just started talking and trading information about our lives," says Wadsworth. " We seemed to haverepparttar 132499 same values and morals." After only one month of emailing each other, Wadsworth invited her potential new love to visit her. Abney flew to San Diego, where Wadsworth lives, andrepparttar 132500 two spent some time getting to know each other off-line. Abney wasn't who he appeared to be, however.

Whenrepparttar 132501 visit was coming to an end, he turned violent without warning. "He jumped on me and started strangling me," Wadsworth remembers. "I was totally in shock."

When it was over, Abney had attacked Wadsworth with a claw-hammer and slit her throat with a steak knife. He then took Wadsworth's wallet and car keys, leaving her for dead.

"I don't remember being hit, but I had three gashes in my skull," Wadsworth says. "He probably thought I was dead when he left."

Beth wasn't dead, however. She managed to call ‘911’ for help, and Abney was arrested atrepparttar 132502 airport. He was eventually convicted of premeditated attempted murder, robbery, and auto theft and was sentenced to life plus 14 years in prison.

"I felt pretty stupid that I'd let this stranger into my house, and this is what happened," Wadsworth says. "I will never meet anybody onrepparttar 132503 Internet again."

Whilerepparttar 132504 dangers faced by Wadsworth and other singles aren't unique to online dating,repparttar 132505 anonymous nature ofrepparttar 132506 Internet does make it easier for people to be deceptive about who they are.

Withrepparttar 132507 concerns—and dangers—of meeting others in this manner rising exponentially, it is no surprise that one website has already clicked with millions of netizens: WhoisHe.Com and WhoisShe.Com, a professional service designed to verify if persons are who they purport to be.

Are they married? How old are they? Have they ever used an alias? Are they really a doctor? Do they have any bankruptcies, liens or judgments against them? Do they have a criminal record? Have they committed domestic violence? Are they a registered sexual offender? A pedophile?

“Know what you are getting into before you invest your heart, money, or your life,” says Linda Alexander, a Southern California attorney and website founder. WhoisHe.Com, which works underrepparttar 132508 motto, "When in Doubt, Check Them Out," offering background checks, personal profiles, criminal and civil record checks for potential mates, prospective employees, in-home service providers, future step-parents, business partners and nannies. The cost ofrepparttar 132509 service provided by WhoisHe.Com and WhoisShe.Com range from $39 to $75.

Online Fan Clubs: Group mechanics, emotional addiction, and separation anxiety

Written by Kathleen Johnson

Online Fan Clubs: Group mechanics, emotional addiction, and separation anxiety Kathleen Johnson 10/14/03

Online communication strips emotional cues from conversation: tone of voice, facial expressions, and body language amongst others. This creates anonymity which hastens intimacy. People become bonded in mailing lists. The regular contact creates a sense of a relationship. Real time chats increaserepparttar rate of information exchange andrepparttar 132490 software architecture allows for transposingrepparttar 132491 event into a book form to be read and digested at a later time.

The virtual neighborhood Virtual contact promotes support, encouragement, and sharing thus overcomes isolation. The Group becomesrepparttar 132492 neighborhood, a community,repparttar 132493 coffee shop,repparttar 132494 Saturday night drag down main street to “see and be seen“. In groups at first there isrepparttar 132495 honeymoon period where all is wine and roses, then comesrepparttar 132496 disenchantment period whererepparttar 132497 boundaries are tested, and finally there is cohesiveness. Early provocateurs challengerepparttar 132498 group leader and then depart to form, sometimes, hostile communities that thrive on “fight and flight”.

The Fan Club These “fan clubs” arerepparttar 132499 newly identified school yard gangs that are operated by, primarily, cyber bullies. These “fan club” members had prior been emotionally addicted torepparttar 132500 Group they have exited from (exit is either voluntarily or involuntarily). Their detrimental emotional dependence onrepparttar 132501 Group had been brought on by loneliness, lack of emotional support in their personal lives, lack of self esteem because of lack of socially productive activities. In real life boys tend to use their “fists” to resolve arguments, and girls tend to use “friendship“. This trend follows intorepparttar 132502 Group setting online. You will find thatrepparttar 132503 males tend to “flame” but remain static onrepparttar 132504 boards, andrepparttar 132505 females tend to use flight into cliques on other boards from where they use “friendship” as a weapon by exclusion and flame from a distance. It is a fascinating phenomenon. When these two types of Group member become hostile they often use language as a weapon rather than to explore ideas. Flaming results from inadequate empathy for other individuals. The solution to flaming is complex but, industry wide,repparttar 132506 only real known solution is strong group guides, moderators, and structure.

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