Many women find it hard to understand how
men in their lives can be satisfied with life as it is. Don't they need more passion? Don't they need more fun? Don't they need to have more of a connection with their family, their wife, or their community? Regardless of area of concern, truth is that many men are what I call "emotional camels." Just like a camel can go forever without water in heat of desert, so can many men go without intimacy, feelings of fulfillment, or excitement life can offer. Men from all walks of life tend to strive to have a sort of emotional harmony or peace, or what some may call "an emotional flat-line."
It's not that men don't like feelings, it's that they are willing to sacrifice highs and lows for steady, even-keeled experience of life. This is a good thing to them. Most men hate being depressed, or sad, or angry. They want these feelings to go away as quickly as possible, so they can return to their "flat line" state.
While some women also have this same tendency, majority actually seem to enjoy wide range of emotions and seem reluctant to get over anything too soon. This can drive a man bonkers, especially since he has to deal with her when she's not happy. He usually wants to help her get out of these "negative" states so she no longer is a "problem" to him. Her down times affect him, which threaten to destabilize his current flat line state.
While men can live without intimacy for quite a while, they usually can't live without sex of some form, even if it's just with themselves. But masturbation can be just enough to keep him satisfied for most part for quite a while, yet for women, even those who enjoy sex with themselves regularly, this is not enough for very long. They need connection with another person, shared intimacy that gives sex meaning.
Often guys almost prefer simplicity of masturbation because its quick, easy, and uncomplicated. They don't need "heart" thing as much and as often, just orgasms. Being an emotional camel also translates into men not needing much ego stroking from their partner. That is why men usually give so little of this medicine to woman in their life. They figure "If I don't need it, why should she?" Knowing they "have to" give at least a little, they do, but only what they think is reasonable.
