Ever noticed that when dating, no one really wants to take first step and open up a dialogue on a subject with depth and substance? It would seem only natural to try to obtain such vital information in order to make a reasonable assessment as to whether your date could have potential.
However, most people, due to either being too uptight, or merely too busy playing “let me put on my best face front”, whether it’s you or just a fraction of you, do not probe for others’ values initially.
This, yet not brain surgery, can become quiet a hurdle to overcome even for most savvy of daters.
Unfortunately, it may take many dates to overcome this obstacle and if you find that this person, is indeed not someone worth proceeding with, then guess what? You not only may have wasted your money, but worst yet, you wasted that precious commodity called time..
Do this enough, and you can see and sympathize with good people who just want to find another good person to spend rest of their life with.
Certainly, I wouldn’t advocate anyone attempting hard-line approach with a prospective mate by asking them to “not beat around bush” or to “bottom-line me”.
This will more than likely cause a seemingly fun loving person to simply disregard you due to your edginess.
Therfore, if time is one of most important things in world and wasting it is like sleeping on a bed of nails; one would definitely have to discern that filtering and sifting others’ values prior moving forward, would assist in this crazy game.
Yes, days of going on blind dates and getting set up by others is still alive, but not as alive as it used to be, due to Internet, newspapers, and like.
With that said, this emerging concept allows a seeker to almost be able to pick and choose like shopping at local grocery store. This fact may sound crass, but it’s true, and this is where future of dating is heading, even though you still will find a more unafraid crowd which some people would call lonely hearts
I see this as intelligent people who, when they submit themselves to a database of others, want to immerse themselves into something worthwhile, sooner than later, instead of getting lost in potential maze of dating.