It is clear by Scripture method of creation is in part, allowance - Letting. We know by history and experience how poorly forcing and violence works in creating a desired outcome. Yet, except in art, allowing a desired result does not occur to foolish or wise. If allowance is method of creation, it stands to reason disallowance can block or prevent creation of things unwanted, as a dam on a river prevents natural flow of water.

Scripture is not designed to supply every detail about how to do a thing. One has to ask questions and read between lines. It should be obvious allowing a thing to manifest is not first step of creation process. Before a thing is allowed, it must be intended by someone. If it is not intended it will not manifest. If you should ask what about unintended consequences, such as we see in evening news, I say to you it was someone's intention to create what happened and we all allowed it. There is no such thing as an unintended consequence. Adam and Eve did not intend to be expelled from Eden. That was intention of serpent. Adam and Eve allowed that intention to manifest.

Before any thing is intended, it must be desired. This explains much about state of affairs in our modern world. The desires of a few disallow desires of many and only allow their own to manifest. The few know what I'm saying but many do not know. They accumulate material, political, psychological and spiritual power to manifest their selfish desires at expense of world.

Before one creates a desire for something, one must imagine it. The thought is very thing necessary to begin process of creation. Martin Luther King knew this and told us that he had a dream. Dreams are often precursors to thoughts if not thoughts in themselves and imaginings are much same as dreams. We can now see Martin Luther King’s creation process in his work. In process, first came dream or image, which led to desire, which became an intention, which manifested as Civil Rights Movement.

There is an important creation lesson in Martin Luther King story. When he publicly announced his dream, corporate power of a mighty nation mobilized a great opposition to it and we might think he would have done better to pursue his dream in a quiet manner. Not so. Because he revealed his dream publicly, he attracted capable people who shared his intention to manifest that dream. He found leadership and volunteers for movement. This forced him to commit to his intention and stand fast in face of overwhelming opposition.

It would seem only natural to try to obtain such vital information in order to make a reasonable assessment as to whether your date could have potential.

However, most people, due to either being too uptight, or merely too busy playing “let me put on my best face front”, whether it’s you or just a fraction of you, do not probe for others’ values initially.

This, yet not brain surgery, can become quiet a hurdle to overcome even for most savvy of daters.

Unfortunately, it may take many dates to overcome this obstacle and if you find that this person, is indeed not someone worth proceeding with, then guess what? You not only may have wasted your money, but worst yet, you wasted that precious commodity called time..

Do this enough, and you can see and sympathize with good people who just want to find another good person to spend rest of their life with.

Certainly, I wouldn’t advocate anyone attempting hard-line approach with a prospective mate by asking them to “not beat around bush” or to “bottom-line me”.

This will more than likely cause a seemingly fun loving person to simply disregard you due to your edginess.

Therfore, if time is one of most important things in world and wasting it is like sleeping on a bed of nails; one would definitely have to discern that filtering and sifting others’ values prior moving forward, would assist in this crazy game.

Yes, days of going on blind dates and getting set up by others is still alive, but not as alive as it used to be, due to Internet, newspapers, and like.

With that said, this emerging concept allows a seeker to almost be able to pick and choose like shopping at local grocery store. This fact may sound crass, but it’s true, and this is where future of dating is heading, even though you still will find a more unafraid crowd which some people would call lonely hearts