Create and Maintain a Conscious Love Relationship

Written by Robert Elias Najemy

Create and Maintain a Conscious Love Relationship

Robert Elias Najemy

Part 1 of a 3 part series

We present you with a brief outline of some basic points necessary to tend to in order to create a harmonious and loving relationship.


Internal preparation is prerequisite for developingrepparttar maturity necessary to succeed in creating a conscious loving union with our love partner. (Although we are discussing here specifically romantic love relationships, most of what is being said is also useful for other relationships.)

a. Clarify Values, Needs, Life Style:

The more mature we are when we enter a relationship,repparttar 131359 more likely we are to succeed in findingrepparttar 131360 harmony we desire. In general, we attract persons who correspond to our present stage of interests, motives, values, goals, etc. This occurs throughrepparttar 131361 attraction of similars and also opposites. As we ourselves mature and become more aligned to our true selves, we will attract people who are aligned to our true needs and goals.

We would do best to begin a process of self-knowledge and determine what we really want out of life. We need to clarify our values, needs and preferred life style. Having done so, we will then attract a partner with whom we can share whatever is important to us.

b. Learn to love yourself:

If we do not believe we are lovable, it is unlikely we will attract a mate who will abundantly express love to us. We attract those who will reflect to usrepparttar 131362 very same feelings we harbor for ourselves. Even ifrepparttar 131363 other does not reject us, we will frequently project or imagine that he or she is doing so.

We exhaust our partners with our need for continuous reaffirmation of their love. When we doubt our self-worth, we easily fear losingrepparttar 131364 other?s respect, admiration and love. We fear losingrepparttar 131365 other to someone else. We then become negative, possessive, jealous and often so overbearing that we suffocaterepparttar 131366 other until he or she does actually leave or develops various protective mechanisms, such as aloofness or aggressiveness.

When we doubt our self-worth, our need to be accepted and affirmed by our partner often causes us to deny our own feelings, needs, beliefs and values. We try to become who we believerepparttar 131367 other wants us to be. We cannot bear forrepparttar 131368 other to be dissatisfied or angry with us. We are afraid we are at fault or thatrepparttar 131369 other will leave us.

c. Develop Inner security.

If we believe that we are not safe alone inrepparttar 131370 world without our partner, we are denying our real selves, our real power, and our spiritual nature.

I have heard a number of women confess that they have stayed with their husbands, who were cheating on them for years, not because they loved them, or believed they would ever change, but because they feared being alone, especially economically. These women are bartering their self-respect and happiness for a false sense of security.

It is essential that we build our feelings of self-worth and inner security so we can loverepparttar 131371 other without becoming dependent upon him or her. In this way, we will be more alive and truer to ourselves inrepparttar 131372 relationship. Only in this way can we be withrepparttar 131373 other because we love him or her and not because we fear being alone.

A Nature Meditation

Written by Robert Elias Najemy

A Nature Meditation

Robert Elias Najemy

You are sitting by a quietly flowing stream inrepparttar countryside. It is spring and life is green and moist? Sitting on a rock,repparttar 131357 sights and sounds ofrepparttar 131358 flowing water begin to work their mysterious way into your nervous system.

Gradually, withrepparttar 131359 simple repetition ofrepparttar 131360 water?s song andrepparttar 131361 harmonious beauty ofrepparttar 131362 natural surroundings,repparttar 131363 thousands of electronic impulses of your brain begin to discharge intorepparttar 131364 tension-absorbing air.

All ofrepparttar 131365 concerns, problems and projects, which had filled your mind to bursting capacity begin to disappear.

There is nothing to try to figure out now, nothing to decide.

The flowers silently console you with their perfect peace and harmony.

The fresh air tingles in your lungs and your head becomes clear.

You feel somehow sedated, as ifrepparttar 131366 forces of nature have conspired to put you to sleep - to put you at ease.

The wind massages your body with caresses of coolness asrepparttar 131367 sun unties your muscles with penetrating warmth.

There is nothing to do, nowhere to go and nothing to think of. Just lie back and absorbrepparttar 131368 peaceful vibrations which flow into every part of your being, whispering, «be at peace, relax my friend, all is well now».

A delicious sleep falls upon you; not really sleep but a half-conscious-half-sleep state, in whichrepparttar 131369 trees, sounds and breeze begin to come inside and mix with all ofrepparttar 131370 thoughts and feelings. It is as ifrepparttar 131371 door of your mind has been opened and all of those conversations, actions and perceptions lying unresolved, floating at various depths inrepparttar 131372 sea ofrepparttar 131373 mind begin to float upwards and outwards.

Reality now is a mixture ofrepparttar 131374 inner and outer.

The peace and security of being inrepparttar 131375 womb of nature allows us to surrender torepparttar 131376 sun, water and wind, whilerepparttar 131377 earth-draws out our stresses and frustrations.

We swim semiconsciously atrepparttar 131378 level whererepparttar 131379 conscious blends intorepparttar 131380 unconscious.

We dance in our sea of consciousness, sometimes floating up torepparttar 131381 surface catchingrepparttar 131382 sensation ofrepparttar 131383 breeze, orrepparttar 131384 warmth ofrepparttar 131385 sun. Then we dive downward into a stream of upward floating thoughts, images, sounds - allrepparttar 131386 dislodged refuse from nervous stresses and unresolved problems. We watch them as they float by and then dive deeper sensing by now there is something atrepparttar 131387 bottom ofrepparttar 131388 sea, which is attractive to us.

Occasionally we get caught by an upward floating sensation of worry, resentment, an image or an attachment, and before we know it, we are atrepparttar 131389 surface again thinking, wondering, worrying, being rocked byrepparttar 131390 waves of attachment. Butrepparttar 131391 dance goes on, we begin to sink again, for by now we see that we cannot really dive because diving is too intense - there is too much effort - we get hooked too easily on upward floating garbage.

We instinctively learnrepparttar 131392 dance ofrepparttar 131393 water, sinking, watching, letting go, being carried onrepparttar 131394 vertical currents of fresh water fromrepparttar 131395 depths of our consciousness, like a seagull with wings spread glidingrepparttar 131396 air currents flowing against it without a movement, without an effort, lettingrepparttar 131397 air do allrepparttar 131398 work.

By this time, we are no longer concerned about where we are going. The water becomes clearer, free of debris. We have gone beyondrepparttar 131399 levels of stress release, past wreckage of old memories, relationships, failures and traumas. We have danced throughrepparttar 131400 caverns of resentment and worry.

The water becomes very clean, very still, very peaceful.

We are coming torepparttar 131401 source of our life current,repparttar 131402 spring of pure consciousness. Here we may encounter pure light or energy. Only subtle vibrations exist here. Our bodies become recharged with life. Our consciousness is renewed as we have clearedrepparttar 131403 way for a burst of fresh energy to flow up purifyingrepparttar 131404 sea of consciousness, regeneratingrepparttar 131405 mind, giving new life to every cell of our brain.

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