Courage to Change

Written by Ernest Quansah


This is a story about a woman we will call Anne, a thirty-five-year-old woman who concluded that she could never find a man. She determined that loneliness was her fate and thus went as far as accepting it as fact. Her case proves what I have discovered in advising single men and women: it does not matter what your circumstances are, every man or woman can and is able to find a happy relationship or reach their potential by makingrepparttar right choices.

Anne was a very beautiful and educated woman. Beneath her beauty were a lot of problems that I never imagined. She had grown up in a family where she was led to believe that no man would ever want her. She wasrepparttar 149461 best looking and best educated among her family members. Yet for many years she worked inrepparttar 149462 family business for minimum wage. The sad part was she was willing to work under those terms untilrepparttar 149463 day she died, because she had accepted that she wasrepparttar 149464 black sheep ofrepparttar 149465 family.

One ofrepparttar 149466 ideas I suggested to Anne, to help her to stop thinking she would never find love, was to start dating. But she was even afraid to date. Whenrepparttar 149467 suggestion was made, Anne declined, saying, “But who wants me? No man will date a woman like me.” I tried my very best to let Anne know that she was a very attractive woman. All she needed to do was believe there was a man out there for her.

She was so concerned that no man would accept her,repparttar 149468 thought of having to start dating made her cry. I personally began feeling sorry for her. I could not understand why she was so afraid to venture outside. I finally reached a point whererepparttar 149469 only choice I had left in my attempt to help Anne was to give her an ultimatum. I told her: “Anne, you can do it. I am willing to help you but if you are going to come to me for advice, only to make one excuse afterrepparttar 149470 other, then why bother? Don’t waste my time. Anne, you must try. Give guys a chance to take you out at least inrepparttar 149471 daytime. If you are concerned, tell someone about your date, your date’s name and phone number, where you will be going and what time you should be arriving home.

“Don’t let your date pick you up from your mom’s house,” I told her. “Meet him somewhere inrepparttar 149472 open. This way he does not know where you live and you will not have to worry about him coming to look for you.” I proceeded to tell Anne that unless she was willing to try, I didn’t see any reason why she should continue coming to me for help.

Atrepparttar 149473 same time, I knew a spiritual couple who were visiting fromrepparttar 149474 U.S. I invited Anne to have dinner with me andrepparttar 149475 couple inrepparttar 149476 hopes thatrepparttar 149477 woman could befriend Anne. Anne told me she didn’t have any friends. The only people she saw were myself and a couple of friends I had introduced her to. Unfortunately, none of them wanted to befriend Anne, because she was so negative about everything. People simply did not want to be around her. Afterrepparttar 149478 dinner was over, we all began to converse.

When a Relationship Goes Bad

Written by Ken Katz


What do you do when a long term relationship goes bad? How do you pick uprepparttar pieces and get on with your life? It is very simple for someone to tell you that you should just forget aboutrepparttar 149460 person you once loved and find someone new.

You don't want to stop rehashing in your mindrepparttar 149461 how and whyrepparttar 149462 relationship went bad. What might you have done to fix it. What did you do wrong to ruinrepparttar 149463 relationship? Why couldn't you just change and make it better.

Guess what. It probably wasn't really your fault and it probably wasn't really your partners fault. It just happened. You just grew in different directions. Don't cry too much over it. Pick uprepparttar 149464 pieces and start fresh. It might even be a blessing in disguise. Because, your next relationship might berepparttar 149465 relationship to end all relationships. So, now hopefully you have something to look forward to.

People grow apart no matter how much they think they are compatible with each other. As time goes by your belief’s and interests change. If you are not in tune with your partner you both start to grow in different directions. As sad as it seems, this is really a healthy thing. If people stop growing and learning then they stop living. And, if you are not living then you are dead. And, that is definitely not a fun thing.

You can try to solve your differences. With discussion you might be able to convey what each of you are feeling and what your current needs are. If you and your partner thinkrepparttar 149466 relationship is worth saving, then maybe you each can make concessions and again findrepparttar 149467 common ground you both once had.

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