Coping With Divorce AngerWritten by Tracy Achen
Successfully releasing your anger will help you begin healing after your divorce. Right now you may feel a great deal of rage at your ex-husband. You might be thinking that if it weren’t for him, your life wouldn’t be so messed up. These feelings are actually a necessary part of your healing. Acknowledging Anger Wouldn’t you just love to tell him what a sorry human being he is? How he didn’t respect you and treated you like dirt. Well, do It! Take a piece of paper and write down everything that he did wrong. Release all anger that has been bottled up. Get it all off your chest. Tell him how he hurt your feelings and how you suffered to make marriage work. Don’t be surprised if this letter goes on for pages, just get it all out.
Now for important part.......Do Not Give Him This Letter. It would only re-enforce impact that he had on your life. Burn it or throw it away. Allow yourself to release that anger and resentment. It’s over and done with. You’ve acknowledged hurt and are now ready to figure out what went wrong and move on.
Gaining Insight Gaining insight into why your marriage failed helps you to move on to healthier relationships in future. Start by thinking about what attracted you to him in first place. Maybe he was handsome, strong, or wealthy. What benefits did you get from marriage? Maybe it was security, companionship, or a sense of belonging. These are things that are important to your core being, and difficulties in your marriage probably stemmed from threats to these areas.
To Invite or not to Invite the Dad to the ShowerWritten by Randy Wilson
Do you invite dad to baby shower? As per old tradition, baby showers are “ladies only” celebrations and generally dad did not attend them. However, he would arrive at end of baby shower to greet and thank all baby shower guests and hostess.
But these days, it's becoming more and more common to include men in baby showers along with friends, spouses, and relatives. Again it is a personal choice. Only hostess needs to decide whether you want a traditional “ladies only” shower with lots of “girly talks” and personal pregnancy stories. Or whether you're looking for a more non-traditional baby shower. Nothing is either wrong or right. But rather it is all about everyone enjoying themselves no matter what type of shower you want to host. If you do plan on inviting dad-to-be, it would be a good idea to know him better, his personality type, what food he likes, beverages, what his friends are like, availability etc. There are a few men who get pale by mere thought of being around so many women. Especially knowing this is traditionally an all female event.
If you do decide to invite father-to-be. Then it would be a kind gesture to also invite several of his male friends. You might also have some nice "manly" type food and beverages to make them more comfortable. After all, it takes a rather daring man to come to what is traditionally an all female event. It would also be a good idea to include some games that men and women both would enjoy.