Control Your Fear Before It Controls You

Written by Michael Lee


"Fear Factor" is one of my favorite TV shows. It highlightsrepparttar courage ofrepparttar 130302 participants to engage inrepparttar 130303 most fearsome and disgusting acts.

Most ofrepparttar 130304 contestants are willing to sacrifice their dignity forrepparttar 130305 sake ofrepparttar 130306 prize money. So what does that imply? It implies that withrepparttar 130307 proper mindset, determination, and will power, you can conquer your fear.

Everyone has some sort of fear. It may be brought about by any one or more ofrepparttar 130308 following reasons.

1) by a traumatic past incident (like being bitten by a dog) 2) byrepparttar 130309 influence of other people 3) by their own negative way of thinking

But are you going to let fear take over your life? Will you remain a hostage of your fear forever?

You must takerepparttar 130310 necessary steps to overcome your fright. It's all inrepparttar 130311 mind.

Do you envy other people when you see them enjoying wild rides, and you're just stuck in a corner because you're too terrified to give it a try? My suggestion is to face your fear head-on. Imagine yourself enjoyingrepparttar 130312 experience instead of exaggeratingrepparttar 130313 things that make you worry. (Unless of course you have health problems, then taking wild rides may not be a good idea).

Do you want to be a doctor but you're afraid that your intellect can't handlerepparttar 130314 pressure or you're worried about financial insecurity?

I Am Healthy

Written by Kay Kopit


I Am Healthy By Kay Kopit It is amazing to be able to say that! I will say it again, “I am a whole, happy, healthy, loving woman.” I was sick forrepparttar first 40 years of my life. Like millions of other human beings I grew up immersed inrepparttar 130301 family disease of alcoholism. For generations it has plagued my family. The unbalanced life I led is so common in our society; I didn’t know anything was wrong. I was a participant inrepparttar 130302 chaos, confusion, neuroses, pain and suffering, which is present in dysfunctional families. I call it The Dance of Death.

I grew up in St. Louis, Missouri inrepparttar 130303 community of Clayton. The only memories I have of my father are when he would beat my brother and me with his belt so severely my clothes would cling torepparttar 130304 bloody strap marks on my legs. He would make us wait for our “punishment” in our room before he dealtrepparttar 130305 ugly blows. My mother closed her eyes to what was happening. Both of them partied on weekends where I would find empty highball glasses scattered all overrepparttar 130306 living room. I had holes inrepparttar 130307 soles of my shoes while my mother would model a new diamond cocktail ring, winnings from a weekly poker game. My dad was also a compulsive gambler. He died atrepparttar 130308 age of 45 when I was nine years old.

My mother attracted another alcoholic to her life soon after my father’s death. They had a symbiotic, codependent and alcoholic relationship. Every ten days they would consume a case of scotch, which was delivered to our apartment fromrepparttar 130309 local liquor store. My mother never appeared drunk but she was distant, selfish and narcissistic. My stepfather’s disease had progressed torepparttar 130310 point he was visibly drunk most evenings. His attitude was condescending, nasty and self-righteous. He was verbally abusive and drove his car while intoxicated on many occasions. When I think back to that period of my history I remember keeping my personal life secret!!! I was ashamed of their behavior. I pretended all was well and I began developing neurotic habits for self-preservation.

In my teens I danced several days after school, participated in theater groups, worked in a department store and had creative life in my head. I imaginedrepparttar 130311 way I wanted my world to be and was in denial as torepparttar 130312 truth in front of me. I became obsessive, compulsive and an over achiever. Because I worked so hard I accomplished a lot for a young girl butrepparttar 130313 reality was it was inspired by fear, insecurity and a need for control.

In college I devoted myself to art and earned a B.S. in Education and a M.A. in Painting and Ceramics fromrepparttar 130314 University of Missouri. I was hired as a college instructor soon after graduate school. I felt “happy” for a time because I was away from home and involved in teaching. I took my job very seriously butrepparttar 130315 loneliness I felt when I was by myself was debilitating. I longed for love . . . any kind. I didn’t realize it atrepparttar 130316 time but I had never felt affection. I became preoccupied with thoughts of “men.” I had guys on my mind constantly! I was popular and had many choices but I pickedrepparttar 130317 ones who I thought needed me. Most often they were from dysfunctional families. I dated a lot of drunks during my 20’s. It felt familiar. In spite of my success as an artist and a teacher, I had low self-esteem and I knew something was wrong with me.

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