Compassion, Part 1Written by Rinatta Paries
"Before we can feel compassion for anyone else, we must learn to feel compassion for ourselves." ~Unknown
Webster's Dictionary defines compassion as sympathetic consciousness of other's distress. But first step toward having compassion for others is having compassion for yourself. It is first step toward creating thriving relationships. It is first step toward moving forward and growing your life.
This is because we can never truly give to another if we are empty, if we are tapped out, unnourished. Sure, we can push ourselves to give even then. But giving won't be genuine. At same time, giving to others while you are empty makes you feel resentful. This is why it is extremely important to always care for yourself first.
The last time you were sick, did you take care of yourself way you would a sick child? Did you fix your favorite meal, sleep for hours on end, and take a day or two off from work? Or did you instead push yourself through discomfort and low energy, all time telling yourself you can't afford time to be sick?
The last time you were sad, did you hug yourself, take a good long time to journal, and call a friend and pour your heart out? Or did you instead continue with your routine, pushing yourself even harder, telling yourself to get over it?
The last time you failed at something, did you look at all you accomplished even in failure, acknowledge your sadness, and come up with a gentle, practical way to do better next time? Or did you instead berate yourself endlessly, telling yourself what you should have done differently and better, resolving to succeed through sheer willpower?
Who is the Smarter Man?"Written by Fred Renoudet
As I said before secret to success is having a good plan, a lot of determination, and especially patience. In our quest for success, we should always remember our priorities.
Unfortunately, we live in a society where a personís success is measured by size of their billfold, their car and their home. To some people, belonging to country club means they "have arrived". To others, where there are multiple country clubs, they canít join just any club they must belong to THE Country Club.
I am reminded of a story that I heard years ago while attending a seminar.
A boat docked in a tiny Mexican village. An American tourist complimented Mexican fisherman on quality of his fish and asked how long it took him to catch them.
"Not very long - it is a very nice day and fish are plentiful," answered Mexican.
"But then I donít understand, why didn't you stay out longer and catch more?" asked American.
The Mexican fisherman explained that his small catch was sufficient to meet his needs and those of his family.
The American asked, "But what do you do with rest of your time?"
"I get to sleep as late as I wish, fish a little, play with my children, and take a siesta with my wife. In evenings, I go into village to be with my friends, have a few drinks, play guitar, and sing a few songs...I have a very full life."
"Hold on a second", American interrupted, "I have an MBA from Harvard and I can really help you! You have to have a good plan. You need to stay focused on a target - success. You should start by fishing longer every day. You can then sell extra fish you catch.