Commit to Doing 80%Written by Rachelle Disbennett-Lee, PhD
Instead of trying to be perfect, it is better to do your best, and often your best doesn't look like going all out all time. This is especially true when you are making changes in your life. Instead of setting yourself up for disappointment and failure, allow yourself some room to breathe and not be perfect. Life is a process and it takes time, so commit to doing your best 80% of time and implement new change slowly, but consistently.
Whenever you decide to make a change in your life, there will be a learning curve. It will take time to get all pieces to come together and fully embrace change. Don't be too hard on yourself if you are not perfect and you do not do everything 100% of time. As long as you are consistent and do at least 80% of new behavior every day, you are well on your way. You can also give yourself permission not to be perfect, but to be in process. It takes time for any new change to become part of your every day routine. If you give yourself permission not to be perfect, but to stay persistent, you will have a better chance of sticking with change and not be overwhelmed by it.
The Spectacular YouWritten by Rachelle Disbennett-Lee, PhD
I recently received a letter addressed to Spectacular Rachelle Lee. At first I thought it was a joke. Who would write such a thing? I then thought maybe it was a mistake. Whatever it was, I knew it did not feel comfortable. It turned out to be an advertisement, for what I am not even sure. What I am sure of is that way it was addressed caught my attention, and I realized how difficult it can be to own just how spectacular I am.
We are all spectacular, but how often do we own it? Would we really go around calling ourselves spectacular, brilliant or wonderful? But how many of us call ourselves other names? When you make a mistake, forget a friend's birthday, or in other ways act human, how often do you launch into names like stupid, idiot or worse? Those seem, in some ways, to be more comfortable words, but to call ourselves more positive adjectives is challenging.
I am guessing that most of us have a difficult time owning how spectacular we are because we were told things like “Don't blow your own horn!”, and “Don't brag!”. However, as I am fond of saying, it isn't bragging if it is true, and it is true that all of us have qualities that can be described as spectacular, fabulous and more. We simply have to own it.