Combat Worrying

Written by Frhazda Munir

'We could never learn to be brave and patient if there were only joy inrepparttar world' Helen Keller

We worry about problems, but worry is itself a problem. It inhibits clear thinking, it drains us of energy, it upsets our sleep and our digestion. It can make us irritable, bitter, regretful, pessimistic, depressed... What a price to pay for something that serves no useful function.

We learned to worry at a young age, but they were childish fears, but those childish fears carried on to adulthood. Worrying is about control, we all have a vision of how we want things to be, but when things or situations do not turn out as we expected we feel helpless and overwhelmed by an unpredictable and unkown future. We find it hard to let go of a problem, which then starts to contaminate our mind and thoughts. The truth is that we are our own worst enemy and many of our troubles are inside our head. We putrepparttar 135110 stamp of who we are on every preception. We seerepparttar 135111 world fromrepparttar 135112 viewpoint of ourselves and in doing so our emotions and fears blurr our vision.

Worry makes cowards of us all. It forces us to turn away from acting upon a problem or indeed it may even createrepparttar 135113 illusion thatrepparttar 135114 problem doesn't exist inrepparttar 135115 first place. Worry pushes us back into ourselves, reinforcesrepparttar 135116 impression thatrepparttar 135117 worst will happen, that we can't cope, that we are helpless inrepparttar 135118 flow of circumstances which carry us inexorable towards unhappiness.

All of us who have worried have become experts in it overrepparttar 135119 years. But worry itself is cunning, it is a distorting lens which hides from usrepparttar 135120 lessons it is teaching. It causes us to see an opportunity as a risk and a challenge as a problem.

Problems are often created and imposed upon us by other people or rather, by our inablility to prevent other people from loading that weight of trouble on our shoulders. We habitually and implicityly say 'yes' to problems, because many of us do not haverepparttar 135121 coping techniques to assert 'no'. Manuel Smith's 'When I Say No I Feel Guilty' is a useful and empowering book on assertiveness.

Potentially we have a great deal of control overrepparttar 135122 way we talk to ourselves. But frequently,repparttar 135123 bleak melody of worry runs in our minds as a kind of background noise to our lives. The irony is that we don't even make an effort to eliminate it, but just listen to that same old tune of hopelessness and gloom. But by establishing a coping dialogue we can diminish and dispelrepparttar 135124 tedious repetitiveness of worry. Take time out every day to give yourself a pep talk. Be upbeat, confident, determined. Simply tell yourself with as much conviction as you can muster that you are going to take deliberate action to achieve what you can and refuse to be troubled by circumstances that are beyond your control.

Below are some tips on how to control your worring. I know from experience that this is not an easy thing to do, but with a little patience and perserverance you will soon be able to control your worrying instead of it controlling you.

Think about what is worrying you, and ask yourself what possible action you can take to aliviaterepparttar 135125 problem. Then take that action immediately.

4 Ways You Can Get Over Your Need for Acceptance and Get on with Your Life

Written by Larry Bilotta

Imagine what your life would be like if you could just be yourself, without thinking twice about what other people think of you! Here are four quick tips that will help you learn how to accept yourself. Make these four things a part of your daily routine and you’ll find people will judge you less and accept you more!

1.See Yourself as a Success

You’re probably familiar with that little voice inside your head that tells you you’re never good enough. Instead of letting that voice continuously judge what you didn’t do right; focus on an actual moment in your life that makes you feel wonderful.

This could be a moment at your wedding,repparttar birth of your first child, or a great victory you achieved. Picture it as if you were living it all over again. Right before you think of this moment, say these words: “You know what this (sayrepparttar 135049 bad feeling you are having right then) reminds me of? It reminds me ofrepparttar 135050 time…

Then remember or in essence “live out” your great moment. Endrepparttar 135051 moment withrepparttar 135052 words: “That’s what this reminds me of.” This is exactly what Olympic athletes have done for years to increase their physical performance. They see it first in their imagination and then they reach their goals.

2.Restore Your Self Confidence

The second key to getting over your need for acceptance is self-confidence. Confidence isrepparttar 135053 result of how you see yourself in your imagination. The way your nervous system makes you feel isrepparttar 135054 direct result of what’s going on in your imagination.

That’s why when someone describes a great meal; you begin to salivate even though there is no actual food in reality. To your nervous system, this “food” is more real than actual food itself. Since that’srepparttar 135055 case, just think what would happen if you imagined yourself being successful and confident?

When you see confidence in your imagination, your nervous system believes you are confident which changesrepparttar 135056 vibes you give off. People will treat you better because they can feel your success and want to be around it. THIS is what actually makes you stop worrying about what others think of you. Those days of wishing someone would take an interest in you can now be ancient history.

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