Self Help: Coaching is Like Gardening

Coaching is Like Gardening

Written by Susan Dunn, The EQ Coach

"A garden in repparttar

early stage is not a pleasant or compelling place: it's a lot of arduous, messy, noisome work -- digging up repparttar 131017

hard ground, putting in repparttar 131018

fertilizer, along with repparttar 131019

seeds and seedlings. So with beginning a story or novel." --Ted Solotaroff

That's like repparttar 131020 beginning of coaching, too.

ARDUOUS WORK

This is when repparttar 131021 client starts working on getting rid of tolerations. These are things we put up with that need to go -- a messy car, torn wallpaper, a negative 'friend,' a bad job, an impossible marriage.

It's typical to have a year's worth of work. It looks awesome at first, but just getting repparttar 131022 first things off repparttar 131023 list gives a lot of momentum.

HARD GROUND

This is getting rid of obstacles. Sometimes they're self-imposed, like pessimism, or low self-esteem. Or maybe repparttar 131024 inability to generate options, or financial obstacles.

For one of my clients, Jen, it was getting over her obsession about her ex-husband. "You told me that was repparttar 131025 obstacle," she said. "You can't believe repparttar 131026 energy it freed up once I got over him."

10 Emotionally Intelligent Questions to Ask Before You Marry

Written by Susan Dunn, The EQ Coach

"10 Emotionally Intelligent Questions to Ask Before Your Marry Someone." by Susan Dunn, The EQ Coach

1. Is it just sexual attraction? Sexual attraction comes from repparttar reptilian brain and is automatic and powerful because it relates to our survival. It's not always a basis for living with someone happily. Don't let it "hijack" you. Find out what else is there.

2. Do they like to touch and be touched?

This is important to your mental and physical health.

3. Do they look at your with affection and kindness? Most communication is nonverbal.

4. Have you used your thinking brain?

EQ means using all 3 brains. Are you compatible in your daily habits? You'll be keeping house together. Do you have repparttar 131014 same values and priorities?

5. Does he or she have emotional self-awareness? How are they at empathy?

One of repparttar 131015 most predictive traits for compatibility is if you can sense repparttar 131016 other's sadness.

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