Clarifying Who You Are Seeking

Written by Rinatta Paries

People usually get what they want in one of two ways. Some people have vivid clarity about their desired outcome and it seems to magically materialize. Surely you know someone like this, or perhaps you are even one of these people. To learn more about how to attract an ideal mate in this way, read "The Power of Unwavering Belief" (

Other people cannot create what they want as easily. They must first get clear about what they want, and then take action. If you are this type of person and are single, you are likely using classified ads, online dating services and other singles-related avenues to meet your ideal mate. If so,repparttar following set of guidelines will help you create an attractive, powerful and effective singles ad or listing by helping you clearly define who you are seeking.

If you prefer not to use singles ads to attract a mate, you still need to be very clear about who you are seeking in order to attract your ideal partner. Below, you will find a set of steps to help you clarify who you are seeking for a relationship.

First, keeprepparttar 102057 following three points in mind:

1. Even when you are taking action to find a partner, you won't actually "find" a partner. You have to attract one, draw one to you. This does not mean you shouldn't take action; it is simply something to be aware of.

2. You attract what you believe. In terms of intimate relationships, often you will attract people who reflectrepparttar 102058 untransformed part of you. If you want to save time and aggravation, work on yourself and your relationship patterns before you begin trying to find or attract a partner.

3. Be clear on who you are, what you want and can offer in a relationship. Be complete with your past. Be clear about your past relationship patterns and why they are/were here. Take my free "True Love Magnet™" quiz ( to learn what you need to do in order to attract your ideal partner. If you do not score well onrepparttar 102059 quiz, your search for a mate may yield a relationship similar to what you have had inrepparttar 102060 past.

Below you arerepparttar 102061 steps for creating an effective ad, as well as a separate set of steps for those who simply want to clarify who they are seeking for a relationship.

---------------------------------------------------------------- Steps for writing an ad or a listing to attract your ideal mate: ---------------------------------------------------------------- 1. Write downrepparttar 102062 qualities of your ideal partner. Be as specific as possible.

2. What type of person would your ideal partner be attracted to? Looking through your ideal partner's eyes, make your best guess and write it down. Don't automatically assume all ofrepparttar 102063 qualities will describe you. Be as specific as possible.

3. Doesrepparttar 102064 list in #2 describe you? If not, are you willing to grow and change so that it does? If not, go back and rewrite your description of your ideal partner and describe a person who will be attracted torepparttar 102065 qualities you have.


Written by Craig Lock

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by Craig Lock

"Money can't buy you happiness. But it helps you to be miserable in comfort."

Becoming a millionaire starts with one word... DESIRE. You have to REALLY want wealth and prosperity... for whatever end (reason) YOU want.

Then you have to really BELIEVE that you can achieve it one day... no matter how deep inrepparttar 102056 "brown stuff" you may be!

Here are a few misconceptions about millionaires:

Myth Number 1: Millionaires work 10 times as hard asrepparttar 102057 ordinary man inrepparttar 102058 street.

Myth Number 2: Millionaires are more intelligent and better educated than you and me.

Myth Number 3: Honest people don't get rich.

Myth Number 4: You need money to make money.

You may be surprised to learn that most millionaires have "begged and borrowed" to get started. Some have even been bankrupt and fired!

Financial prosperity and a fulfilling, well-lived life are goals we can all achieve -- if we understandrepparttar 102059 principles of success.

The main attraction of money isrepparttar 102060 FREEDOM to choose your desired lifestyle. Earning a great deal of money should not be for it's own sake. I really believe that most people are too busy earning a living to stop and think about how they could get rich and solve their money problems... and that isrepparttar 102061 reason haven't been able to do so.

Have you ever stopped to think through your particular situation? Here are some ideas to help you get started onrepparttar 102062 road to TRUE financial freedom. Look at each one and apply them to your individual situation.


Millionaires love their occupations. Work is leisure, a hobby. Most millionaires continue working long after they become wealthy.

First, find an idea or concept (one that leads torepparttar 102063 birth of a PRODUCT) - one that people really want and that can help make their lives easier in some way. (I sell information about how to better manage your money and I love helping people.)

Don't give yourself a choice, an exit. Put your "back torepparttar 102064 wall" and "burnrepparttar 102065 bridges behind you." (I don't have many other options here in "Sleepy Hollow," so I userepparttar 102066 powers of my creative imagination torepparttar 102067 absolute fullest.)

Your seemingly insurmountable problem can become repparttar 102068 greatest opportunity for your achievement. Make repparttar 102069 most of it!


Most people don't believe there are secrets to wealth -- they believe rich people are just "lucky." Most people don't believe they can ever become rich.

It all starts with DESIRE.. DESIRE to be financially independant and perhaps even wealthy. I believe having substantial amounts of money gives one choices and I would like to use it one day for good to HELP other needy people, like other promising writers. Here's a joke or two about writers...

What'srepparttar 102070 difference between a writer and a family pizza? The pizza can feed a family of four!

What'srepparttar 102071 definition of an aspiring author? A waiter!

Sorry waiters!

Back torepparttar 102072 original subject after that "entertainment break"...

* FOCUS ON A GOAL. Write downrepparttar 102073 amount of money you want and how much time you'll allow yourself to acquire it. In order to achieve monetary wealth, you need an amount and a deadline to aim toward.

There is magic in having a quantified objective working on your sub-conscious mind. If you don't know where you're heading, chances are you'll never get anywhere.

What do we ask from life? Ninety-nine out of one hundred people don't even think about it.

You berepparttar 102074 exception torepparttar 102075 rule and write down your goals, your wants, your dreams, your desires.

Stretch yourself. "The greatest limitations are those man imposes upon himself." Therefore,repparttar 102076 greatest obstacle to your success is a mental obstacle. Do things differently and ignorerepparttar 102077 objections of "rational" people.

Set yourself an objective initially that is reasonable, yet bold (within reach, but ambitious), so you are forced to extend yourself to reach it). Most people are overly conservative and too scared to dream. Expand your mental boundaries - don't be a creature of habit with your mental limitations.


"Character is destiny."

DESIRE will sustain your thoughts. The more passionate your desire,repparttar 102078 quicker you will make it happen.

Benefit fromrepparttar 102079 knowledge ("the pearls of wisdom") found in books, like this one (shameless plug!).

Read books and keep repeating positive words. The repetition of affirmations really works by imprinting positive thoughts on your mind.


Mastering our own destiny and fulfilling our dreams is our ultimate purpose in life. In so doing, you can (and WILL) glorify God,repparttar 102080 Universe,repparttar 102081 Great Creator and "Source of our Being."

Find your passion and extend your goals. Love what you do. Find work that satisfies you and you will have found your passion.


I believe it is how God,repparttar 102082 Universe speaks to us individually -repparttar 102083 "connecting link" between us and repparttar 102084 Divine -repparttar 102085 wayrepparttar 102086 spiritual turns into thought, ideas and "physical action," inrepparttar 102087 form of a PLAN. Accept it (your feelings, your "heart") asrepparttar 102088 truth and you will. If you have faith that you will accomplish something, you will. BELIEF IS THE SECRET.

The more you internalize it (a fancy term used by those 'psycho types'), which simply means making it real within you),repparttar 102089 more powerful it becomes.

"You can do very little with faith, but you can do nothing without it." - Samuel Butler

Your unconscious mind is extremely susceptible torepparttar 102090 power of words and it can be easily influenced. Words like "can't" engrave themselves inrepparttar 102091 unconscious; so that negative thoughts and feelings become your self-image. To become rich you have to create a new self-image: one of thinking wealth and prosperity. Self-image depends largely on your expectation about who you're going to be.

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