Do you enjoy living alone in solitude, rarely entertaining friends or family? Or do you enjoy company of family and friends at home and feeling that you are attached to a broader neighborhood or community? Either lifestyle is healthy and natural; challenge is to identify and honestly face social needs your home will be expected to serve.

Some people have a strong need for peace and quiet at home. Others love hustle and bustle of people around them, sounds of laughter and spontaneity. When doorbell rings, do you sag momentarily at possibility of being interrupted, or are you excited about who might be dropping by? Neither choice is superior to other.

What are these skills? To read, one must recognize thousands of words. Since all English words are built from only twenty-six letters, huge task of recognizing letters and their sounds and putting them together to form words becomes greatly simplified. An English-speaking child only has to sound out letters and then put sounds together to read word.

I do not wish to over-simplify complexity of our rich English language, however. Like other western languages, English has its peculiarities. For example, many vowels have more than one sound, and many sounds can be spelled more than one way. However, even with these complexities, English is far easier to learn than Chinese, where children have to memorize thousands of word pictures, rather than twenty-six letters and their sounds.

Reading is difficult at first, but, once learned, process becomes automatic and unconscious. When we can read quickly without sounding out every letter of every word, all knowledge of world opens to us. However, like learning to drive a car, if we don’t learn basic skills, we don’t learn to read, or we read poorly.

Enter public-school education theorists who think otherwise. Don't adults read without sounding out every letter of every word, they ask? So why teach children phonics? Why put children through alleged boredom, drudgery, and hard work of learning letter-sounds? How can reading be joyful if literature becomes drills? If children memorize whole words instead of putting together letter sounds, all this pain will be gone. Rather than teaching kids alphabet and how to sound out M-O-T-H-E-R, teach them to recognize MOTHER and other whole words in a book, like Chinese word-pictures or ancient Egyptian hieroglyphics. Have child read simple books that repeat each word over and over, so that they come to recognize word. Do this for each word, they claim, and child will learn to read. This is called "whole-language" reading instruction.