Choose a Life Mate, Don't Wait for a Soul Mate

Written by Michelle L. Casto


Choose a Life Mate, Don’t Wait For a Soul Mate By Michelle L. Casto, M.Ed. This article is adapted fromrepparttar book Get Smart! About Modern Romantic Relationships: Your Personal Guide to Finding Right and Real Love

Have you ever wondered why allrepparttar 131196 people who are seeking their soul mate end up disappointed and let down? I have found that it is possible that there is no such thing, at least inrepparttar 131197 way most people think about it. I have also found that if you want to find “heaven on earth” with a special someone, you have to adjust your expectations to a more realistic, humanistic level. With all ofrepparttar 131198 talk about finding one’s soul mate, you might wonder why a more appropriate term is “Life Mates.” Because, in my belief, soul mates are allrepparttar 131199 people we come into contact with whom we have unresolved business. In truth, soul mates could be family, friends, or colleagues. They do not have to be your significant other. Thanks torepparttar 131200 media and our human need for companionship,repparttar 131201 soul mate myth has been romanticized to unrealistic proportions and continues to keep us longing for that one “perfect person,” so much so that we are never satisfied with who we are with. Life Mates, onrepparttar 131202 other hand, appreciate and love each other on a more humanistic level. Life Mates recognize each other’s spirits, but interact as human beings, realizing that while in human form, nothing or no one is perfect. They know that life on earth is about learning lessons. Life Mates learn, live, love, and evolve together, yet remain separate on their individual spiritual journey. Ultimately, finding your true Life Mate brings real love into your life, awakens your soul and makes it easier for you to learnrepparttar 131203 lessons you are meant to learn. Before I met my own Life Mate four years ago, I too believed that there was only one perfect person for me in this entire world. For many years, I searched high and low trying to find my other half only to end up feeling frustrated and lonelier than ever. And then…. I met Philip—of course when I wasn’t looking---and we began dating. I did not feel an instant connection with him, a bolt of lightening did not strike me, nor did any other “sign” appear before my eyes telling me that he wasrepparttar 131204 one. Instead, we simply enjoyed each other’s company and started spending more time getting to know one another. After about six months, we woke up torepparttar 131205 realization that we wanted to be an exclusive couple. After a year and a half, we decided to move in together, next we bought a home, and finally adopted two wonderful dogs. My lovelife now is rich and wonderful, but it is because we chose each other and became committed torepparttar 131206 development of a real relationship. Had I continued to search for a perfect person, I would probably still be alone!

Can You Live Totally In The Moment?

Written by Jan Tincher


Can you learn to totally live inrepparttar moment?

Do you know what that means?

It means erase all of your personal history, so nothing will get in your way of living forrepparttar 131193 moment.

You can't remember that so-and-so used to call you a dummy -- and therefore your are.

You can't remember that your teacher told you you couldn't write or spell, and therefore you can't.

You can't remember that your school mates told you you were ugly and therefore you are.

Do you understand how important that is? If you want to live inrepparttar 131194 moment, you can't let something that is not IN THAT MOMENT be IN THAT MOMENT.

Let's say you wanted to compete in a contest. You're getting ready, but suddenly you remember something that was said long ago that doesn't support what you are doing now.

Well, you know what? That *something* is not who you are now -- that something is MAYBE who you were then. (And, actually, it really is just a MAYBE.)

Are we interested in who you were then? No. Are we interested more inrepparttar 131195 fact that you've trained for this, you can do this, you are going to do this? Yes.

Then why are you thinking about what was? Why aren't you remembering everything that supports who you are or want to be NOW, and letting old memories dissolve and disappear.

Can you do that?

Yes!

OK. Let's do it now. Here's how:

Put that old thought in a cloud -- a cloud covered with a fine mist.

Nowrepparttar 131196 mist is raisingrepparttar 131197 cloud. That cloud is rising higher and higher. It had something in it, didn't it? What was it? You can't see it, can you?

Oops, it's trying to poke through.

Cover it with crayons of different colors on all sides. Now, you can't see it, can you?

Ooops. You say it's still coming through?

Do you do fireworks? You know what fireworks would do to that, don't you? Kabam!

If that doesn't work, use a suction cup. Attached torepparttar 131198 suction cup is a long string. Lightrepparttar 131199 bottom ofrepparttar 131200 string, and watch asrepparttar 131201 flames leap up andrepparttar 131202 whole thing burns to nothing.

Now, you realize you're doing this all in your mind, don't you? In your mind you can do anything. DO WHATEVER IT TAKES to get rid of that cloud holding that old thought. Do this: Blow up a balloon, put ALL of this in it, and then let it shoot clear up torepparttar 131203 moon when you releaserepparttar 131204 air.

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