Self Help: Choose Ones that Cry

Choose Ones that Cry

Written by Ruth Marlene Friesen

Do you have a friend who tends to well up with tears very easily? Those tender ones who won't hurt a flea, and whom you sometimes accuse of going overboard with generosity?

Or do you steer clear of them because their tears make you uncomfortable? I know, I know. I've got some friends who avoid me and are embarrassed to death if they see me tear up, and my face gets sort of scrunchy and red. And wet. Mine's awash in tears so quickly. Would I embarrass you?

Let's look at repparttar ones who always have their emotions in check and never blush or shed a tear. Somewhere, somehow, those people have learned to cover up and hide their feelings. However, with that, given repparttar 131424 right circumstances and temptations, comes repparttar 131425 ability to be deceptive. Such a friend can fake a friendly enthusiasm, but be plotting a revenge on a lower floor in their soul. I used to admire them; now I stop and listen for my intuition to reveal their true motives.

I suggest that you deliberately choose us easy-weepy tender-hearted ones as your best friends. I'll tell you why.

The ones that cry may embarrass you in public, but only as long as you allow yourself to feel marked out. You will always know what they are thinking and feeling, and generally it will be in your favour, rather than their own. These tender ones empathize with and cheer repparttar 131426 loser, and sometimes you feel like a loser, right?

10 Steps to Better Resolutions for 2002

Written by Trevor Barre

Another ‘Be a Better People Person’ free monthly E-zine brought to you by

Trevor Barre – Life and Relationship Coach.

Issue 12/2001

This month, I would like to share, with permission, a fellow coach’s suggestions for better New Year resolutions. It makes for great reading.

1. Make resolutions throughout repparttar year, rather than waiting for New Year’s.

That way you’re likely to set goals that are really meaningful and compelling, rather than setting goals for repparttar 131421 sake of a holiday ritual.

2. Eliminate recurring resolutions.

Anything you’ve set as a goal before and failed at probably isn’t going to work any better this time. Drop it or redefine it to make it more doable and attractive.

3. Align resolutions with values.

When goals are in sync with your natural values, success comes more effortlessly.

4. Cross ‘shoulds’ off your list.

‘Shoulds’ and ‘musts’ are actually other people’s goals, not yours.

5. Make resolutions specific and measurable.

If there’s no clear finish line, you won’t be able to know if you’ve succeeded. Vague goals create anxiety and drain energy.

6. Identify what might stop you from succeeding.

Anticipating possible obstacles means they are less likely to derail you when you encounter them. Some will even disappear just by being named.

7. Focus on what you want, not what you don’t want.

Sounds basic, right? You might be surprised. Energy follows thought, so you attract what you focus on. Phrase resolutions to express repparttar 131422 positive, not repparttar 131423 negative, side of your goals.

8. Make your physical environment do repparttar 131424 work.

If you want to watch less TV, put it in storage. If you want to curb credit card spending, keep them in a safe deposit box for emergency use only. If you want to eat healthier foods, make sure that’s all you have in your house. You get repparttar 131425 idea.

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