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This month, I would like to share, with permission, a fellow coach’s suggestions for better New Year resolutions. It makes for great reading.
© Deborah Keahey, 2001
1. Make resolutions throughout year, rather than waiting for New Year’s.
That way you’re likely to set goals that are really meaningful and compelling, rather than setting goals for sake of a holiday ritual.
2. Eliminate recurring resolutions.
Anything you’ve set as a goal before and failed at probably isn’t going to work any better this time. Drop it or redefine it to make it more doable and attractive.
3. Align resolutions with values.
When goals are in sync with your natural values, success comes more effortlessly.
4. Cross ‘shoulds’ off your list.
‘Shoulds’ and ‘musts’ are actually other people’s goals, not yours.
5. Make resolutions specific and measurable.
If there’s no clear finish line, you won’t be able to know if you’ve succeeded. Vague goals create anxiety and drain energy.
6. Identify what might stop you from succeeding.
Anticipating possible obstacles means they are less likely to derail you when you encounter them. Some will even disappear just by being named.
7. Focus on what you want, not what you don’t want.
Sounds basic, right? You might be surprised. Energy follows thought, so you attract what you focus on. Phrase resolutions to express positive, not negative, side of your goals.
8. Make your physical environment do work.
If you want to watch less TV, put it in storage. If you want to curb credit card spending, keep them in a safe deposit box for emergency use only. If you want to eat healthier foods, make sure that’s all you have in your house. You get idea.