Chinese Marriage

Written by Wong Yee Lee

Chinese Marriage

In ancient China, a man could have as many concubines as possible afterrepparttar first wife. It was possible thatrepparttar 122043 youngest concubine would be a teenager whilerepparttar 122044 husband could be an ancient old man. Poor families sold their young daughters to rich families just because they could get some money fromrepparttar 122045 rich family and also get rid of a useless female inrepparttar 122046 family.

Since 1950,repparttar 122047 Chinese government has promulgated a law which stated that one man can only get married with one woman. It offendsrepparttar 122048 law for anyone who has more than one wife.

Inrepparttar 122049 past, parents arranged marriages were very common. Usually young people would have their spouse decided by their parents. Sometimes young people could only haverepparttar 122050 first look of their spouse at their wedding. It was also common that sometimes an arranged marriage could be organized even beforerepparttar 122051 child was born as long as parents from both families agreed.

In modern days, things have changed quite a lot. Free love prevails and lovers can choose to get married with whoever they love. Of course, in order to show their respect to their parents, formal agreement has still to be obtained prior to any proper marriage procedure.

Even more modern, matchmakers businesses are all thriving just because sometimes people find it a bit hard to find their true love.

Before getting married Before getting married, young people have to pay a formal visit to each other's parents. When visitingrepparttar 122052 girl's parents,repparttar 122053 boy has to bring with himrepparttar 122054 betrothal gifts in order to show sincerity. Whenrepparttar 122055 gifts are received, then bothrepparttar 122056 boy andrepparttar 122057 girl are engaged. Whenrepparttar 122058 girl visitsrepparttar 122059 boy's parents,repparttar 122060 parents have to prepare a formal gift forrepparttar 122061 future daughter-in-law.

In China, usuallyrepparttar 122062 newly wedded couple will move to live withrepparttar 122063 boy's family. Sometimes it is not surprising to see that they will live withrepparttar 122064 girl's family. However, in these modern days, young couples would prefer to live alone withoutrepparttar 122065 parents if they can afford to pay for a new flat or house.

One ofrepparttar 122066 wedding procedure is thatrepparttar 122067 bride has to prepare a dowry to be brought torepparttar 122068 bridegroom's family onrepparttar 122069 wedding day. A dowry is things bought byrepparttar 122070 bride's family, which includes blackest, clothes, accessories, daily necessities and etc.

ROMANCE 101—How to turn Your Relationship into a Great Romance!

Written by Gina Woods

OK...Let's talk about romance! The #1 most important thing you need to turn your relationship into a great romance is DESIRE. You have to WANT great romance in your life. Well, who wouldn't want that? But it won't just will take some effort. But it will be well worth it!

When asking couples why they thinkrepparttar romance has escaped their relationships,repparttar 122042 most common excuse is TIME. It's sooooooo hard to find time and energy to devote to your relationships. But think for a moment back to your courtship. What was different then? Didn't you have a job then? Didn't you have other responsibilities then? Of course you did...maybe not torepparttar 122043 extent that you do now, but you still had a schedule to keep, whether it was attending college, studying, playing sports, attending club meetings, keeping a job, etc. But somehow you foundrepparttar 122044 time to "woo" your partner, right? You found time to date, right? Why? Because you WANTED TO! You planned it into your schedule and did it! And why were those times together so special? Because that specific amount of time was set aside and reserved for one reason...ROMANCE! And during those "dates" you gave 100% of your attention to each other, right? That's what made it special.

Now I want you to think aboutrepparttar 122045 last time you and your partner went out to dinner. What did you talk about? Maybe it wasrepparttar 122046 family finances, or difficulties at work, or...the KIDS. Wow, what a romantic dinner, huh? That'srepparttar 122047 problem. You have to learn to create romantic situations that focus 100% on each other. Saverepparttar 122048 "problem solving" for another time. I can't tell you how many times inrepparttar 122049 past my husband and I went out to dinner and whenever we got home, I didn't even feel like we went out! Why? Becauserepparttar 122050 whole time we were out, we were busy doing that "problem solving" stuff instead of enjoying what little time we had together. So, that'srepparttar 122051 second most important thing you need to turn your relationship into a great romance...PRIORITY. Make it a priority to spend quality, FOCUSED time with your partner. These special times should be set aside JUST forrepparttar 122052 two of you to enjoy each others company...nothing else...PERIOD.

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