CHEMISTRY what is it,and do we really need it?
CHEMISTRY-Just mention of this term conjures up powerful feelings and images for anyone who has ever been in or seeking a love relationship. It is often described as a feeling that leaves you breathless, excited and weak in knees. Palms sweat, heart races and body tingles with nervous anticipation,Wow!
It is believed by virtually everyone that true love cannot exist without chemistry. Therefore, conclusion most would-be lovers come to is that if they experience these intense feelings towards someone, they have basis for an ideal and lasting relationship.
Right? well it definitley helps to assist bonding process, but, for this definition of chemistry it is only limited to one's physical response to another person. It lacks an entire dimension that resides in our values, beliefs, personalities,social and family background and worldview.
In order to know you have right connection with a potential (or existing) partner, it's important to have a basic knowledge of what real chemistry consists of, instead of embracing only myths that surround it. This can be difficult to do. This intense, physical passion is stuff that Oscar winning movies and best-selling books are made of. So, although as intoxicating as sipping champagne...take a step back for a minute and see if you recognize yourself in following.
Sex is great. You have such strong physical chemistry, it's almost like an addiction. You long to see your love interest as frequently as possible, when you are apart your mind is full of them, how they smell, feel of their skin, how you feel when you make love.... and a deep longing to be with them as much as you can. It is literally like being intoxicated, in fact you are, with PEA!
These vignettes are great examples of how physical chemistry can be mistaken for real thing. The attraction on one level is so strong, you believe that relationship has right elements to grow into a happy and satisfying partnership, all that you are feeling are physical symptoms - What you need for this to grow is a common ground of values, beliefs and goals. Once you have established all these elements then you have ultimate foundation in which to build your relationship upon.
Physical attraction (or lust) generally begins during our first contact with someone, although on occasions it can grow, how often have you heard two people meet, they didn't like each other, then at a later date they meet again and find themselves falling for each other.
Chemistry - can it DEVELOP over time ? YES, but you do need some pull from very beginning. Chemistry is about our sub-conscious blue print we have formed over many years stemming from childhood. Our first emotional bonding experiences with our opposite sex parent will remain imprinted on our minds, to our surroundings and relationships formed throughout our lives, hence some people are attracted to particular types of partners, this will almost certainly be down to a long history of forming strong bonds with those kind of people.