Chatty CathyWritten by Judi Singleton
We all run across these people who talk and talk and talk. They forget to include you in their conversation. You know who I am talking about here. They are ones who run a monologue on you and you just stand there for a while so shocked that you can't move then you yell fire! to get away from conversation. Now this person, who is chatty cathy, is using me for attention and approval she does not seem to be able to give to herself. She does not offer me anything she just takes my energy. I call these people emotional vampires. Now if I just stand there and listen I am doing two things that I never want to do in my life. I am caregiving afraid to hurt this person's feelings and I am enabling her to continue in this non-productive behavior. Now I have someone in mind as I write this article. She is so needy. I do feel sorry for her but I do not want to just give her pity. I also do not want to just stand and spend my precious time as she pacify or calm chronic insecurity, her lonliness, and her emptiness. Whenever, I am out with her she traps not only me but store clerks, bank tellers, whoever will listen and don't know how to get away from her without being impolite. I avoid this person whenever possible and finally had to just tell her I didn't have time to be at end of a one sided conversation. I told her it drained me when she talked and talked and tried to fill up at my expense. Sound mean I don't think so. Most people would just avoid her and not answer phone when her number comes up. Now it is my belief that she needs to heal her addiction. The inner child in her is looking for attention. Perhaps attention she never got as a child. Every time she traps someone into to listening to her she is handing away her responsibility. It really is her that needs to listen to herself and pay attention. She needs to give that child approval. She wants someone else to take her responsibility. By handing responsibility for her life back to her and treating her as an adult I am showing her respect that she deserves.
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