Allthough meating a woman may not solve all your problems. Finding someone to share your life with can be best thing that ever happened to you. You can increase chance of that happening by taking a look at way you date.

Lets face it, most dates are just same old dates that everybody ells take their dates to. Take a good look at you own dating habits. Do you usually do anything out of ordinary for girl when you planning your dates. The answer is most likely NO.

You might not take your date to classical dinner and a movie but rather something more fun like a day in an amusement park but let’s face it. You are hardly only guy that does that and odds are that your date wont be first of its kind for your special lady

Not that classic dates doesn’t have their charm, and I know that many women loves a fine dinner in a nice restaurant. But it still isn’t something that really makes you stand out from rest, nothing that she will remember for years to come whether you end up together or not. To really make an impression you have to make it seem like your something else then all losers she dated in past, even though odds say that you most likely are same. You’re a man aren’t you?

So how do you make a date worth remembering? Well there are a lot of good and bad ways. You could flash her and she would most likely remember you for a long time, but I guarantee you she wouldn’t remember you fondly after that and if she moves in same circles as you, you can be sure that she will ruin your chances with o lot of other women in those circles too. On other hand a good surprising experience could very well improve your chances with other women in her circles even if you don’t get girl in question.

Tom’s reaction? He instantly blew up and berated Jeanette for spending so much money—buying more television than they needed, a bigger model than they had previously looked at together.

Jeanette was dumbfounded at Tom’s reaction; she truly thought this would be a gift that would greatly please him.

Case #2: Jim was having a friendly beer with his brother-in-law Jack when discussion turned to Jack’s success in life. Wanting to compliment him, Jim commented on how far he had come, how proud of himself he must be and how much he is an inspiration to others, given his background with alcoholic and dysfunctional parents.

Rather than seeing this as a compliment, however, Jack became offended and angry. He berated Jim for “putting him down," as he interpreted Jim’s comment.

Views cause anger

As these examples clearly show, people are not disturbed by things or events, but by their view of them, as Epictetusan—a Greek philosopher—observed early in 2nd century.

When an upsetting family event occurs, you have a choice of how you are going to explain it to yourself—what you are going to tell yourself about it. This will influence how angry, stressed, or upset, you become over event.

Learning to change what you tell yourself —your self-talk— can break cycle of negativity that can often poison our minds when we get angry. We all have 'scripts' in our minds that tell us messages and stories about family members and how they behave.

Tom, who exploded when his loving wife bought him a new television, was telling himself things like: she has such poor judgment-buying a bigger TV than we need; there she goes again, spending money excessively; why can’t she ever do what I want her to do? Why did I marry such a woman?