Celebrating the ME in MumMEWritten by Peggy Porter
Copyright 2005 Peggy Porter
Another Mother’s Day is upon us. A day in which our loved ones bestow us with handmade gifts, breakfast in bed, supper out and sometimes even jewelry!!! It is a day for our family to show how much they appreciate job we do.
I remember after my first child was born, I developed this deep respect for other mothers and immediately felt connected to all of them. I felt a bond that only strengthened further into motherhood I went.
So on this very special weekend, I want to honor, not only my own mother, but all mothers. You hold a very special place in my heart and I know first hand challenges and rewards that we experience on a daily basis. Motherhood is several professions rolled up in to one; nurse, teacher, housekeeper, referee, cook, manager and many more. The pay is poor but benefits are best.
My wish for all mothers is that you don’t wait for one day of year before YOU recognize contribution you make in lives of others. It is so important to appreciate, on a daily basis, job you do. We often second guess our mothering ability. We focus on times we lost patience instead of times we didn’t. We count times we yelled instead of times we said I love you. We fixate on mess of house instead of recognizing that time spent reading with kids was a better decision.
Seeking to Nurture Others? Start By Finding Yourself!Written by Fran Hendrick
Copyright 2005 Fran Hendrick
"I'm not worried about what I want; I just want to make sure that everyone else has what they want."
It's an unspoken chorus of women who have been raised to believe that being "selfless" is their greatest gift to world.
Underneath it lurks a great fear.
"If my family knew how I really feel or if I insisted on what I want, they would stop loving me!"
As women, many of us were taught that being valued by others means leaving ourselves behind. We quickly learn to act in ways that are inconsistent with our own beliefs and feelings in order to avoid displeasing people whom we love and need. What a paradox! For in order to be truly valued by another, we must present an authentic self, not a façade designed to avoid rejection. Authenticity is sine qua non of true connection with others, and yet it is our fear of disconnection that drives us to hide our real thoughts and feelings, i.e. to reject ourselves. What a joy to suddenly understand that fully becoming person you are meant to be is actually very best way to serve others!
The fact is, by fully defining and appreciating ourselves, we naturally become empowered to release our unique gifts and dreams into our work and our relationships, and to achieve joy and flow in our lives. The people we care about are best served when we are acting from wholeness, not by our “playing a part” in an attempt to please them. Only when we allow our individual sparks to glow is Universe at its brightest.