Here's an example:

A person is leaving. You are about ready to say your good-byes. What you *see* in leaving determines your *tomorrows.* If you can't see good, what are you seeing? The bad? Right. And what are you showing person leaving? Certainly not good, if you're thinking bad. Now . . . both of you are upset. Do yourself, and those around you, a favor. Learn to take charge of your thoughts.

Here's one way to do that:

A son or daughter is leaving for college. Look at this scenario: The family is solemn, helping their son/brother pack car for college. Now, car is packed, they've said their good-byes, and are watching as his tail lights disappear down street. A sad look is on their faces, because, for a few minutes, they are sad. Suddenly, they realize he is actually gone. They all rush into house, each with a different purpose in mind! They had told themselves that they wouldn't begrudge him going to college. He's gone, now they would look toward future. You can see their thoughts. *The mom gets a new sewing room!* *The dad gets to use computer more!* *The teenage daughter gets to have upstairs bathroom all to herself!*

Now, that is progressive -- and healing -- thinking.

What is NOT progressive and healing thinking is continually thinking about how much they will miss him. They will, of course, but they will have compensation. Their son is going on to a better life. His future is great. It's not like he's gone forever, and there is nothing they can do, or would want to do, to stop his progress. They will be helping him by helping themselves.

No matter what other factors may be dragging you down, I guarantee you that clearing your clutter will dramatically improve your mood and energy. And then any other problems you are confronting won't seem quite so bad.

When you first start clutter clearing you may be surprised at emotions triggered by simple act of dealing with your stuff. You think you're just cleaning out your home, but what you're really doing is rooting around in dusty corners of your psyche and coming eyeball-to-eyeball with unresolved business from past. The personal relics that lurk within your clutter - college papers, family memorabilia, detritus from a long-dead marriage - can be easier to ignore than to carry to dump, which is why they've been haunting back of your closet for so many years.

As you persevere with clutter clearing a moment will come when you realize how much lighter and happier you feel. In process of coping with your clutter, you've reconnected with your inner self, with dreams and wishes long ignored. Those you've outgrown can be released with a fond smile. Those that make your heart leap with recognition and longing... well, now you have space, time, and energy to pursue them.

Clutter clearing gets you out of your rut. It shakes loose frozen aspects of your soul and allows them to journey into your heart where they belong and where you can listen to and act upon them.