Can One Person Increase Motivation in Another Person?

Written by Jean Fisher

The answer is yes, of course, right? People motivate other people. After all, what about coaches and inspirational speakers? They are paid to motivate other people to do great things.

But askrepparttar parent who would like to see a better report card,repparttar 150799 boss who is sure to catch several employees off task at any give time, orrepparttar 150800 spouse who hates picking up someone else’s dirty laundry fromrepparttar 150801 bathroom floor and you will hear that motivating others is IMPOSSIBLE!

Considerrepparttar 150802 two types of motivation: intrinsic and extrinsic:

Intrinsic motivation originates from withinrepparttar 150803 individual. It is a very powerful source of motivation. Intrinsic motivation is behind all of our attempts to learn and master new skills from our very birth. An infant will reach out and grasp a finger. Next comes walking, talking, riding a bike, allrepparttar 150804 things children are anxious to accomplish.

Extrinsic motivators arerepparttar 150805 rewards and punishments that come fromrepparttar 150806 outside world. Play video games instead of doing homework, suffer embarrassment in classrepparttar 150807 next day. Earn a trophy for first place in a competition for high performance, winrepparttar 150808 admiration of others. There is one important fact about extrinsic motivators however, they are short-term fixes only. The desired behavior will probably disappear whenrepparttar 150809 threat is gone (or forgotten) orrepparttar 150810 promise has either been delivered or denied.

Instead of relying on extrinsic motivators when attempting to get people to behave in ways that you think are reasonable, fosterrepparttar 150811 factors that nurture those powerful intrinsic motivators. What arerepparttar 150812 intrinsic motivators?

•Success and pride of accomplishment •An understanding ofrepparttar 150813 importance in applyingrepparttar 150814 desired behavior

That’s a pretty short and easy list. So how do you go about adding sunshine, water and nutrients to these natural seeds of personal growth? Here isrepparttar 150815 method:

•Set goals •Assign responsibility •Recognize progress •Develop empathy •Create a conducive environment •Contribute to positive health habits


1) Decide. 2) Create an affirmative statement. 3) Write it down. 4) Be clear about your reasons for wanting it. 5) Set a date for accomplishingrepparttar 150816 goal.

Read any motivational book and, whenrepparttar 150817 subject of goal setting comes up, you will always see this formula. The obvious reason? It is effective! Have a family meeting and present some ideas on making progress in areas of importance. Now create a statement that expressesrepparttar 150818 desired goal in an affirmative manner. (To state a goal inrepparttar 150819 affirmative, you say it as if it is already accomplished.) If you want to spend less time watching television and more time on responsibilities, projects and hobbies, you can say, “Our family devotes one hour each evening for taking care of responsibilities and spending creative time on hobbies and projects”. Now commitrepparttar 150820 goal to paper. Why do you have to write it down? The writing process involves more motor skills and imprintsrepparttar 150821 idea more clearly onrepparttar 150822 brain. Next step is to assign relevancy torepparttar 150823 goal. “Better use of our time will reduce stress forrepparttar 150824 entire family. We can userepparttar 150825 extra time to take care of some chores that usually end up getting rushed, such as picking out clothes to wearrepparttar 150826 next day, or fixing lunches.” Then pin a date onrepparttar 150827 accomplishment, “We will start on Monday and meet again Saturday to talk aboutrepparttar 150828 different ways we used our extra time”.


There are some very important rules to follow when delegating responsibility in a way that fosters intrinsic motivation rather than relying on extrinsic rewards or punishments.

•Allow for choice •Allow for individual styles •Allow for a learning curve

In our goal of spending less time inrepparttar 150829 evening in front ofrepparttar 150830 television and more time reducing stress and pursuing creative endeavors, we can apply these allowances. Obviously, each person would be responsible for picking out tomorrow’s clothes, but other duties can be handed around. Make a list of other jobs that could be shared by everyone and then work out a fair plan of accomplishment. Rememberrepparttar 150831 secret of presenting” yes” or “yes” options. “Danny, do you want your day to cleanrepparttar 150832 bathroom to be Wednesday or Friday?” “Would you rather make sandwiches or foldrepparttar 150833 laundry?” Once a job is delegated it now belongs torepparttar 150834 responsible person. No breathing down necks, or coaching fromrepparttar 150835 sidelines. Make surerepparttar 150836 proper tools are available, instructions are clearly given and then walk away. Ifrepparttar 150837 bathroom mirror is cleaned with a moprepparttar 150838 first time, oh well. The intrinsic goals ofrepparttar 150839 individual will allowrepparttar 150840 necessary skills to develop naturally. You contribute torepparttar 150841 learning curve by affectively applyingrepparttar 150842 next step.


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