CONFIDENCE IS COOL

Written by Oscar Bruce


REMEMBER THE TIME you could not think of anything to say torepparttar person sitting across from in that little café or acrossrepparttar 124095 conference table? You stammered when they looked your way. They smiled at you, but still, there was no way to reach out - and you lost yet another chance to make a good contact.

REMEMBER THAT PARTY, when you were standing off to one side by yourself, andrepparttar 124096 other people were stealing brief glances at you? Still you couldn't think ofrepparttar 124097 right things to say.

REMEMBER LEAVING THAT MEETING? Just ahead of you wasrepparttar 124098 person you really wanted to meet and get to know. You could not quite summon uprepparttar 124099 courage to approach. They walked away intorepparttar 124100 night and out of your life.

REMEMBER THE EXPERIENCE of uttering a sentence, then stopping and realizing that it wasn't exactly what you meant to say?

BY FAR THE MOST TERRIFYING BARRIER to developing relationships with strangers is learning to talk to them. Making first contact is sometimes fearful. Even thinking of approaching a new person makes you break out in a cold sweat.

YOU CAN'T GET THERE FROM HERE? How did things get like this, you wonder? It's because family and peer groups ripped from you at an early agerepparttar 124101 innocent social adeptness ofrepparttar 124102 young. The bullying and being "cut down to size" that passes for socialization scarred your psyche. The fearful result is that you are not just shy, but gun shy. But, all that can change. It can be accomplished.

CAN THIS ALL BE CHANGED, YOU ASK? The answer is - absolutely yes - becauserepparttar 124103 need to grow is instinctive inrepparttar 124104 human spirit. Additionally, self-improvement is proven to be not only confidence building, but therapeutic. In fact, failure to do so creates distress and forms of neuroses.

An Apple A Day....

Written by Dave Cole


John Chapman was a man who saw opportunity when everyone else saw garbage.

Chapman had a vision, a tremendous vision for his future andrepparttar future of his country. That vision destined him to become an American folk hero.

He developed a business plan for his vision which included learning everything he could about his business, paying attention

to details, askingrepparttar 124094 local markets about their opinions, and making adjustments alongrepparttar 124095 way.

Inrepparttar 124096 early 1800's, John "Appleseed" Chapman would visit cider mills and spend entire days running his hands throughrepparttar 124097 garbage picking out tiny apple seeds one by one.

It was dirty, dull work. But to Johnny Appleseed, those tiny seeds were as precious as rubies. His idea was to take those seeds, plant them, then sellrepparttar 124098 apple trees to settlers as they moved westward.

Chapman made himself a student of nature. He learned whererepparttar 124099 best soil was for planting. He learned his market by becoming friends withrepparttar 124100 local folks and takingrepparttar 124101 time to have them develop a trust in him.

Atrepparttar 124102 timerepparttar 124103 law required each settler to plant 50 apple trees on their plot of ground. Asrepparttar 124104 settlers moved further West, Appleseed kept ahead of them planting more and more seeds.

His business thrived as settlers were more than happy to pay Johnny for his pre-started seedlings. Byrepparttar 124105 end of his life, Chapman had planted hundreds of orchards on thousands of acres acrossrepparttar 124106 American Northwest territory.

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