Written by David Stoddard

I've donerepparttar goal setting things inrepparttar 101948 past. I heard ofrepparttar 101949 studies where onlyrepparttar 101950 successful 3% have goals written down. I had ideas of what I wanted to accomplish. But for differing reasons, I didn't always reach them as often as I would have liked. Some were just ideas which stayed ideas. Others I worked at didn't turn out as planned. So I wondered why.

>From what I came up with, some were due to things I was or wasn't doing. Not happy with that as an answer, I looked around for other possibilities. And I came up with my own list of what goals have in common. Characteristics if you will.

A goal must be…

ACHIEVABLE: Just because we may not have done something doesn't make it impossible for us. Odds are, someone, somewhere, at some point in time, has done what we would like to do. That by itself, makes it possible. And, like runningrepparttar 101951 4-minute mile, what seemed impossible before, is now achievable.

BELIEVABLE: Can we do it? Can we learn how to do what it takes? Do we haverepparttar 101952 time? Can we findrepparttar 101953 time? Do we haverepparttar 101954 self-discipline it will take to keep going to achieve it? Have we made any steps toward it? Have we reached any other goals in our lifetime no matter how small they seem now? As long as we can answer yes to some of those questions, and our goal is within reason, it can happen for us.

DESIRABLE: Whatever we set as a goal, it must have meaning to us. We should have our own set of reasons as to why attaining this goal is important. By knowing why we want to attain something is a powerful force behind our getting it. Things will happen to derail us, but keeping focused on why we do what we do, will help considerably on those days when things seem to be against us.


Written by Craig Lock

Especiallyrepparttar really important ones...

Life is full of decisions; we make hundreds of them every day. Most are automatic and minor ones. However, occasionally we are compelled to make vitally important decisions about major life-goals. These decisions are often practical or ethical ones. For example, we occasionally have to take major decisions like choosing a marriage partner (assuming they'll take you, that is), choosing to leave a partner in marriage, or decisions about what to do with your life.


A positive attitude to life helps make major decision making far easier and less stressful. Here are some general hints on decision making (although it's one of my weakest areas); but I'm trying hard to improve...

1. Get rid of your mental blocks.

2. Give uprepparttar 101947 notion that there is only one 'right solution' torepparttar 101948 problem/dilemma you are confronting.

3. Don't fear making a mistake.

4. View your problems as a normal part of life (is that possible?). Every problem requiring a decision is an "opportunity in disguise".

5. See yourself not as an indecisive person; but rather someone who sometimes behaves indecisively...that's a rather kind way of putting it.

6. Develop your intuition and logic, but listen to what your heart says (gut feeling).

7. Stop and think before you act. Stop yourself doingrepparttar 101949 first thing you think of. That's me for sure!

8. Be specific.

9. Know what your goals and your values are,repparttar 101950 principles of your existence, before taking a major life decision. Ask yourself, ifrepparttar 101951 ideal outcome is in alignment with your values.

10. Write down allrepparttar 101952 positive and negative factors for and against taking a particular course of action. American president, Benjamin Franklin did it in two columns when confronted with major decisions.

11. Think howrepparttar 101953 decision will benefit YOU first. Do what you and not what other people really want.

12. Try to think calmly and rationally (very difficult for me).

13 ("lucky"). Do your homework and get allrepparttar 101954 facts before you makerepparttar 101955 decision.

14. Get opinions and feedback from others you trust; but don't let them makerepparttar 101956 decision for you.

15. Establish priorities and "soulsearch" (for a "soulmate"). Ask yourself what arerepparttar 101957 critical factors? What isrepparttar 101958 single most important consideration?

16. Trust your impulses, your "gut-feelings". Use your intuition through meditation - this is "God,repparttar 101959 Universe" "speaking" back to us through all repparttar 101960 "accumulated wisdom" ofrepparttar 101961 world.

17. Don't take your decision too seriously; nothing is that important, no matter how much it appears like that to you. Ask yourself how much will it really matter in one, five or ten years time? Remember, no decision is irreversible; if you find out some way downrepparttar 101962 track that you've takenrepparttar 101963 wrong course. But some decisions are pretty important: finding another lover, or trading inrepparttar 101964 "old man" (I chose that word very carefully; so I wouldn't be beaten up byrepparttar 101965 feminists).

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