But How Can I USE Emotional Intelligence?

Written by Susan Dunn, MA, Emotional Intelligence Coach

I’m sure you’re hearingrepparttar term Emotional Intelligence. It’s being talked about a lot these days. For most people there’s an immediate “click”. We recognize it asrepparttar 109379 missing piece!

It’s like that cartoon ofrepparttar 109380 girl saying, “Oh, I knew I forgot something. My career!” Well, in this case, we become aware that someone, somewhere alongrepparttar 109381 line forgot to tell us how to be smart about our emotions. At least in words we could understand!

But then again are you or are you not “smart” about your emotions? You see we don’t even know how to assess how we are with our emotions. It simply hasn’t been talked about it ways that makes sense and would allow us to userepparttar 109382 information we receive.

If someone says, “You’re too reactive,” what does that mean? In relation to what or to whom? And aren’t they usually talking more about themselves? Usually they mean “You’re more reactive than I am” or “You’re more reactive than I’d like you to be.” They may berepparttar 109383 kind of person who could have a firecracker go off next to them and not “react,” but what does that mean in relation to their ability to function and relate? Not much!

And thenrepparttar 109384 next day you’ll have a pounding headache, or have been up all night withrepparttar 109385 baby, and fail to respond immediately to a comment someone makes and they’ll say, “Why don’t you respond? You just sit there.”

One standard would certainly be how well things are going for you at work and at home, because our EQ is more important to our happiness, success and health than our IQ.


The people I’ve worked with in Emotional Intelligence take to it immediately. There are immediate applications to their life they try, andrepparttar 109386 results are positive, so there’s an excellent and immediate feedback loop that keeps you motivated and improving.

One ofrepparttar 109387 best things about it is that you learnrepparttar 109388 tools, and thenrepparttar 109389 applications are all around you. No matter what situation you’re in, or what circumstance, increasing your Emotional Intelligence skills will help. You’ll become more aware of what’s going on around you –repparttar 109390 things you couldn’t quit “grasp” before. You’ll also become far more knowledgeable about what’s going on with other people, and isn’t that alwaysrepparttar 109391 most difficult thing to figure out?


Here’s is an example. One ofrepparttar 109392 Emotional Intelligence competencies is emotional expression. It’s important to understand that 90% or more of any person’s emotional expression takes place nonverbally. That means – ta da – you need to increase your skills in being able to notice and INTERPRET nonverbal behavior. This meansrepparttar 109393 expression onrepparttar 109394 person’s face, how they sit, how they walk, their tone of voice, their silences, and other important “cues” as to how they’re feeling.

Why is this important? They may be telling you how they think, but how they feel is what’s going to influence what action they take, whether they buyrepparttar 109395 product, whether they hire you, or whether they marry you.


If you are charged with motivating others, you must be able to communicate well, and you must be able to read their nonverbal communication. Motivation is a feelings thing, not a thinking thing. If you can connect with what’s important torepparttar 109396 person you’re dealing with, or connect everyone to an idea or mission they can feel strongly about, you will have your motivation.

Linguaphone Language Learning Programs

Written by Madhur.G.Bajaj

The Linguaphone Institute London , founded in 1923, has always had close links with acedemic world. Jacques Roston, founder ofrepparttar Institute and pioneer ofrepparttar 109378 use of sound recordings in home- study language learning, was advised by distinguished scholars inrepparttar 109379 field of languages including Daniel Jones, probablyrepparttar 109380 best-known phonetician this century and author ofrepparttar 109381 definitive English Pronouncing Dictionary. In 1967 Linguaphone relationship withrepparttar 109382 acedemic world was formalised withrepparttar 109383 appointment of an Acedemic Advisory Committee chaired byrepparttar 109384 former provost of University College London, Ifor Evans( Lord Evans of Hungershall), ahd including amongrepparttar 109385 members AC Gimson, Andre Martinet and Randolph Quirk.

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