Do you have skills to be a secret service agent?
Do you have necessary attributes to be a successful secret services agent? Do you melt into background where no one can see you? Do you hide behind someone else? Would you describe yourself as having an incognito life? Are you capable of always putting yourself second? Do you constantly defer to another person? Do people see right through you and ignore you?
Then you have skills.
You see, as John Reilly, states in song he wrote for musical Chicago; you are no more than Mr. Cellophane man.
Mister cellophane Should have been my name !!!! Mister cellophane 'cause you can look right through me Walk right by me And never know I'm there!
The question is:
Are these skills you need to have an effective life? Are these skills that bring you fulfillment and happiness? Are these skills that show off your uniqueness and enable you to fulfill your role on this planet?
In our experience answer is, no.
So how do you avoid being Mr. Cellophane man?
Start by changing your focus of yourself. Rather than look at what is wrong with you and what needs changing. Sit quietly with yourself for a moment and look at your qualities.
•What are my strengths?
If you are not sure, or cannot put your finger on your strengths
1.Take a LARGE sheet of paper and write down all things you like about yourself. Go on write it anywhere on paper. Make it as large or as small as you like. It doesn’t have to be a list. 2.Ask a friend or friends what they like about you. What do they see as your strengths and add it to paper. Be prepared for a shock because how others see you may not be how you see yourself. Remember don’t edit. Add everything they say. 3.Read list before you go to sleep and add anything new that comes to you in morning.