One of things I learned from process of making a will is that a will is an expression of love for living. After all, loss of you will be difficult enough for your loved ones to bear. Why add to their angst with legal problems, emotional confrontations with family members and possible financial losses.

The living, that is, those left behind, will make of a will what they will. Make no mistake, will, is taken seriously by those left behind. Understand there will be no opportunity to explain what you really intended by leaving some treasured object to cousin Jo or why you named Sally your executor instead of your older son Bob. The child who is convinced that you love others more than him will be looking for something in will that proves him right and may very well find it in spite of how careful you are not to have anything in will that might be misconstrued in that direction. So, it is a good idea to use simplest language and clearest grammatical structure as possible.

The Last Will and Testament is exactly that. You don't get a second chance. After I dealt with distribution of tangibles - financial assets, money and physical objects accumulated and treasured for so much of a lifetime you confront most important part of your legacy. .

Making a will is a poignant reminder that physical stuff, including money, doesn't really amount to very much when all is said and done. Perhaps appropriate background music for will making is song "Is That All There Is?" My answer to that musical conundrum is a resounding, "No." That isn't all there is. The tangible things we leave behind have little to do with real legacy we leave. The real legacy is one we fashion each day of our lives by way we live and who we are being.

Or is it?

In towns and cities everywhere there are single people (like yourself) going about their daily lives. Schedules consist of long hours at work and/ or school, commuting, appointments, errands, leisure time pursuits/activities and everything else that is part of fabric of one's existence. In course of a day, average person encounters many strangers on street, elevator, store, metro, etc. Have you ever really thought about possibility that Mr/Ms Right could be person behind you in line or across aisle on metro? If not, now is a good time to raise your awareness and broaden your thinking on subject of how and where you can meet compatible singles. Armed with some newly acquired skills, your next chance encounter could lead to a first date and more. The following are areas to start building expertise that will help you to stand out and get right kind of attention when an attractive stranger comes into your sights.

* Always be prepared. You just never know, so you need to make that extra effort before you rush out of house. Take a quick look in mirror, comb your hair and change those (horrid) old sweats into a nice pair of jeans. How you feel about yourself will be projected onto those around you, and really - you do look like your mother in THOSE pants.

* Raise your general awareness of what and who is around you. Don't walk with you head down, avoiding any eye contact. Try smiling at people you pass on street and offer a nice greeting or remark to folks who wait on you when you shop, do your banking, pick up your clothes at cleaners, etc. Take special note of strangers who appear to be single and to have characteristics you seek and surreptitiously check to see if that cute guy/girl is looking your way. If so, smile and say hello if it feels appropriate to do so.

* Watch your body language. Along with holding your head up, remember to keep those shoulders back and walk with a comfortable erectness. Have an "open" posture. Don't wrap your arms around yourself as you stand or huddle in a corner when waiting/standing in a line. The eyes say it all; so let yours say "friendly." Communicate to others that you are approachable and let them see that you are interested- if you are. What you don't say speaks volumes.