Building Solid Relationships Using Power of Words
We may not be aware of it; but words we utter daily may have different interpretations, even if you think that they mean same thing.
Here's an example.
Would you rather have someone tell you that you are "slim," or would you like to hear that you are "thin?" Being slim has a slightly positive effect because it is attributed to health and fitness.
Rather than saying you have failed, just mention that you have not yet achieved success. Get picture? Always try to speak words in most positive manner you can think of.
Here's another important advice.
Never compare negative qualities of one person with another.
A former boss of mine has this to say to me when I made an error in my previous day job, "James (not real name) is doing a much better job than you are. He's not committing any mistake like you do."
That crushed my heart. My boss thought this would motivate me to do better. Nope, it just hurt my feelings and lowered my self-esteem. Of course, I would never make same mistake again after her harsh scolding. I've learned my lesson well. But she could have said it nicely.
Experiences arising from discouragement and condemnation will have a negative effect on recipient.
Some parents might believe that instilling fear on their children would improve their performance. They would say, "You're always failing. Why can't you be like your brother? You're such a disgrace to this family."