We may not be aware of it; but words we utter daily may have different interpretations, even if you think that they mean same thing.

Here's an example.

Would you rather have someone tell you that you are "slim," or would you like to hear that you are "thin?" Being slim has a slightly positive effect because it is attributed to health and fitness.

Rather than saying you have failed, just mention that you have not yet achieved success. Get picture? Always try to speak words in most positive manner you can think of.

Here's another important advice.

Never compare negative qualities of one person with another.

A former boss of mine has this to say to me when I made an error in my previous day job, "James (not real name) is doing a much better job than you are. He's not committing any mistake like you do."

That crushed my heart. My boss thought this would motivate me to do better. Nope, it just hurt my feelings and lowered my self-esteem. Of course, I would never make same mistake again after her harsh scolding. I've learned my lesson well. But she could have said it nicely.

Experiences arising from discouragement and condemnation will have a negative effect on recipient.

There was a woman who was in such a hurry to go to airport. She told cab driver to step on it. She was so engrossed with her own thoughts that she was not aware they were going on a different route.

Suddenly, a man went inside cab and took her handbag where she placed her visa, passport, and all her money for trip.

The driver, who was in cahoots with robber, left her in middle of that dark street. She cursed world for being so mean to her, and she kept on thinking how unlucky she was to be in that situation.

That very same night, she heard a shocking news. Tears flowed down her face. Flight 230 has crashed! It was plane where she was supposed to board into. If she have not lost her precious belongings, she could have lost something far more important - her life!

Sometimes bad things really happen. We lost our money, failed our exams, or get rejected by others. There are times when nothing seems to go our way.

So what do we do about it? Are we going to be disappointed? The answer is a resounding "No!" We must take all these frustrations out of our chest and start all over again with consistent faith that we will get what we deserved.