Here's an example.

Would you rather have someone tell you that you are "slim," or would you like to hear that you are "thin?" Being slim has a slightly positive effect because it is attributed to health and fitness.

Rather than saying you have failed, just mention that you have not yet achieved success. Get picture? Always try to speak words in most positive manner you can think of.

Here's another important advice.

Never compare negative qualities of one person with another.

A former boss of mine has this to say to me when I made an error in my previous day job, "James (not real name) is doing a much better job than you are. He's not committing any mistake like you do."

That crushed my heart. My boss thought this would motivate me to do better. Nope, it just hurt my feelings and lowered my self-esteem. Of course, I would never make same mistake again after her harsh scolding. I've learned my lesson well. But she could have said it nicely.

Experiences arising from discouragement and condemnation will have a negative effect on recipient.

For many individuals who are pressed for time, speed reading has become a necessity. However, it's not just reading part that is important. Equally essential is for reader to fully understand words coming out from book or paper.

Here are some great tips to read and comprehend faster.

1) Relax.

If you're in stressed mode, it would be much more difficult to concentrate; hence, it would just be a lot harder for information to sink in.

2) Know what you want.

Focus on areas that you really need to learn. Some people read all parts of a book, when all they need to know is a specific chapter.

Know your priority. If you need to find out about a certain subject, go to Table of Contents and search for heading that best suits your need. If you need to learn more, then adjust accordingly. The important thing is to weed out stuffs that you don't currently need.

3) Get rid of structure words.