Breastfeeding - Handling Criticism

Written by Patty Hone


Feelings about how to parent seem to shift with every generation. A new way of parenting, sometimes called attachment parenting, has emerged and it challenges many ofrepparttar rigid teachings of our mother's generation. Although breastfeeding is onrepparttar 111222 rise now, women are still dealing withrepparttar 111223 repercussions of previous generations. Not too long ago mainstream women did not breastfeed at all andrepparttar 111224 ones that did were taught to follow strict schedules. Some thought of breastfeeding as primitive. Formula was touted as being equal to or superior to breast milk. Only recently, hasrepparttar 111225 fact that "breast is best" been acknowledged. Other women were inrepparttar 111226 workforce. They may have felt that breastfeeding was not an option for them. They did not haverepparttar 111227 modern breast pump available to them. The medical community may not have encouraged breastfeeding atrepparttar 111228 time. It is not hard to imagine. After all, even with allrepparttar 111229 knowledge aboutrepparttar 111230 benefits of breastfeeding there are still many health professionals today that are uneducated and unsupportive of breastfeeding. With allrepparttar 111231 challenges inrepparttar 111232 way of breastfeeding, it is understandable why many women of yesterday did not choose to breastfeed.

Breastfeeding has come a long way but still many ofrepparttar 111233 old thinking still carries on. Women are more educated onrepparttar 111234 subject; however, even withrepparttar 111235 many books and other information available, people are often most influenced by their immediate family and friends. Havingrepparttar 111236 support of friends and family can boostrepparttar 111237 chances of having a successful breastfeeding experience. Onrepparttar 111238 other hand, having to deal with criticism and misinformation fromrepparttar 111239 people you are close to can sabotage a new mom trying to breastfeed.

There are many ways to deal withrepparttar 111240 negativity of others. One ofrepparttar 111241 best things you can do is to try to understand whyrepparttar 111242 person feelsrepparttar 111243 way they do. Is it because they were taught differently about breastfeeding? Were they indoctrinated withrepparttar 111244 ideas that breastfeeding is primitive or inferior? Or is it that they feel breasts are a sexual object? Maybe they have never seen someone breastfeed and it makes them uncomfortable. This isrepparttar 111245 case with a lot of people. Once breastfeeding in public becomes more commonplace, perhaps, this will become less of a problem. Whateverrepparttar 111246 case, finding outrepparttar 111247 root ofrepparttar 111248 person's issues with breastfeeding may help to resolverepparttar 111249 tension.

Anger: To Control or To Learn

Written by Margaret Paul, Ph.D.


The following article is offered for free use in your ezine, print publication or on your web site, so long asrepparttar author resource box atrepparttar 111221 end is included, with hyperlinks. Notification of publication would be appreciated.

Title: Anger: To Control or To Learn Author: Margaret Paul, Ph.D. E-mail: mailto:margaret@innerbonding.com Copyright: © 2004 by Margaret Paul Web Address: http://www.innerbonding.com Word Count: 845 Category: Relationships, Emotional Healing

ANGER: TO CONTROL OR TO LEARN By Dr. Margaret Paul

Many of us will do anything to avoid another’s anger, yet may be quick to anger ourselves. Many of us dread another’s anger yet continue to use our own anger as a way to control others.

Let’s take a deeper look at what generates our anger and how we can learn from it rather than be atrepparttar 111222 mercy of it.

The feeling anger can come from two different places within us. Anger that comes from an adult, rational place can be called outrage. Outrage isrepparttar 111223 feeling we have when confronted with injustice. Outrage mobilizes us to take appropriate action when harm is being done to ourselves, others, andrepparttar 111224 planet. Outrage is a positive emotion in that it moves us to action – to stop crime and violence, clean uprepparttar 111225 environment, and so on. Outrage comes from a principled place within, a place of integrity, caring and compassion.

Anger can also come from a fearful adolescent place within – fromrepparttar 111226 part of us that fears being wrong, rejected, abandoned, or controlled by others, and feels intensely frustrated inrepparttar 111227 face of these feelings. This part of us fears failure, embarrassment, humiliation, disrespect, and helplessness over others and outcomes. When these fearful feelings are activated, this adolescent part, not wanting to feel helpless, may move into attacking or blaming anger as a way to attempt to control a person or a situation. Blaming anger is always indicative of some way we are not taking care of ourselves, not taking responsibility for our own feelings and needs. Instead of taking care of ourselves, we blame another for our feelings in an attempt to intimidate another to change so that we will feel safe.

Blaming anger creates many problems in relationships. No one likes to be blamed for another’s feelings. No one wants to be intimidated into taking responsibility for another’s needs. Blaming anger may generate blaming anger or resistance inrepparttar 111228 other person, which results in a power struggle. Or,repparttar 111229 person atrepparttar 111230 other end of blaming anger may give in, doing whatrepparttar 111231 angry person wants, but there is always a consequence inrepparttar 111232 relationship. The compliant person may learn to dislike and fearrepparttar 111233 angry person and find ways to passively resist or to disengage fromrepparttar 111234 relationship.

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