Boosters & Drainers

Written by Nan S. Russell


Like huge anchors on cruise ships, other people can hold you down. Not intentionally, but their negativity impacts you. It’s hard to be winning at working when you’re anchored in place. It’s hard to seerepparttar next great idea and enthusiastically embrace it, when you’re feeling a sticky heaviness. And it’s hard to think creativity when you’re feeling empty.

Like a balloon with air pouring out, deflated and flat atrepparttar 104226 end, I hung uprepparttar 104227 phone, drained. Forrepparttar 104228 most part I’d offered a supportive ear with occasional contributions of asked for advice. Several days in a row, he called or stopped by my office, with a second, and a third, and a fourth verse ofrepparttar 104229 same song. After each encounter, my energy felt zapped. It got torepparttar 104230 point where Jay’s presence alone started my energy leaving, replaced with an empty heaviness as if his negative energy was seeping into me.

It took me awhile to figure it out, but Jay was an energy drainer. I’ve learned overrepparttar 104231 years, if I spend too much time around people with negative energy to share, my optimism, and enthusiasm for work (or life) are adversely affected.

You may know people in your own work life who hold you down, zap your enthusiasm, cheer you into self-destruction, and occupy so much of your time and energy that you can’t offerrepparttar 104232 best you to anyone, including yourself. And you know people who dorepparttar 104233 opposite.

Don't Be Dragged Down

Written by Arthur Cooper


Inrepparttar world of work – inrepparttar 104225 office environment – you are judged not just by how good you are and what you do, but by how good and how effective those around you are.

It is unfair maybe, unjust perhaps, but inevitable.

If you are in a winning team you catch some ofrepparttar 104226 glory however small you own role has been. If you are in a losing team you are tarred withrepparttar 104227 losers’ brush, no matter how excellent your own performance has been.

Those outsiderepparttar 104228 confines ofrepparttar 104229 team inevitably seerepparttar 104230 wider picture and notrepparttar 104231 details. They inevitably judge each member of a team to some degree based on their perception ofrepparttar 104232 whole group.

And for you as an individual, however good you are, if you are in a losing team this can be bad news.

Bad news ifrepparttar 104233 person makingrepparttar 104234 judgement is your boss.

Bad news ifrepparttar 104235 person makingrepparttar 104236 judgement isrepparttar 104237 head of another department in which you would like to work.

Bad news whenrepparttar 104238 time comes to select people for promotion.

Bad news when bonuses are decided.

You may be able to survive one failed project or one late delivery. You may be able to survive two. But more than that and you will be marked out as a loser. You won’t have anything good to show on your record. You won’t even be able to move. You will be stuck. As time goes on you will find yourself assigned torepparttar 104239 less important projects, torepparttar 104240 least critical jobs. You will never have a way out or a chance to shine and show your true worth.

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