Gail Lindenfield is a well-known British author who has written several self-help books. In Self Motivation, she does a good job of going over many aspects of self development and she provides solutions to a variety of everyday problems.Challenges - make sure that are truly enjoyable and that
outcome is worth risk. Success is built on an astute ability to synchronize challenge and chance.
Risk - before taking a risk, imagine and face worst possible outcome.
Principles - before starting a project-list your principles and ideals. Keep a clear distinction between core (unbending) values and more flexible ones.
Fear - learn to take control to your response to fear so that you can reclaim your full quota of natural courage. Don't take on any more fear than what you have judged is controllable by your current store of courage.
Energy - value and use it economically. Use rhythm of your own energy cycles to your best advantage.
Calm concentration - work on putting yourself into a focused and relaxed state where body is free of tension and mind is clear and energized. Concentration exercise - count backwards from 50, as soon as mind wanders, go back to 50 and start again until you get it all.
Organization - you must be able to draw upon order when you need it and loosen its restraints when you do not.
Decision making - accept that decision making is stressful. Focus on taking care of yourself while under pressure rather than making a premature decision.
Self presentation - never sell out on your individuality. Don't penny pinch on presentation - a high class look will give you a high class feel.
Problem solving - accept responsibility for solving your own problems.
Intuition - make a habit of listening for, and noting down your intuitive response whenever you need to make a decision. Individuality - ask yourself regularly if you are being yourself. Remind yourself that many of those who have contributed most were individualistic characters.
Action signals - these are symptoms that you feel that require immediate action. Here are several action signals along with a brief summary of her recommended solutions: 1. Guilt 2. Frustration 3. Disappointment 4. Inadequacy 5. Anger 6. Loneliness
Self criticism - make a short self-criticism session part of your daily habit: What could you have done better today? What didn't you do that you should have done today? Reframe self put-downs into a neutral format.
Self forgiveness - it's important to regularly forgive yourself because you are constantly changing and developing, and it is impossible to do this without getting it wrong many times.
Assertiveness - Practice using your directness in low-charged emotional situations first. Deal with your unassertiveness before tension mounts up and you over react to situation.
Self protection - don't waste time and energy arguing with people if their opinion is of no value to you. Reveling in success without fear of failure - Double your rate of failure. Failure is a teacher - a harsh one, perhaps, but best you can be discouraged by failure or learn from it, said Thomas Watson of IBM. .
