This article is based on
following book: Nice Girls Don’t Get
Corner Office 101 Unconscious Mistakes Women Make That Sabotage Their Careers By Lois P. Frankel, PhD Warner Books Inc., 2003 ISBN 0446531324 288 pages Dr. Frankel clearly identifies
common mistakes –101 in all—that women commit unconsciously to sabotage their careers. This book provides revolutionary guides to help
women of today eliminate
girl-like behaviors they became accustomed with, which hold them back professionally.
How You Play
Game Unfortunately, women are not as trained to participate in competitive sports. It is only recently that women started making their marks in this field. Thus, most women do not know
rules of
game of business. They simply do not know how to play it—and more importantly, how to win it.
Some of
common mistakes women commit as they play
game of business are: pretending it isn't a game; playing
game safely and within bounds; working hard; doing
what you want; avoiding office politics; being
conscience; protecting jerks; holding your tongue; failing to capitalize on relationships; and, not understanding
needs of your constituents.
How You Act Being successful in
world of business is not only dependent on your knowledge of how to play it. It is also important to know how to act, professionally. Dr. Frankel enumerates some unlikely behaviors in
workplace that can be hard career busters.
These are: polling before making a decision; needing to be liked; not needing to be liked; not asking questions for fear of sounding stupid; acting like a man; telling
whole truth and nothing but
truth (so help you God); sharing too much personal information; being overly concerned with offending others; denying
importance of money; flirting; acquiescing to bullies; decorating your office like your living room; feeding others; offering a limp handshake; being financially insecure; and, helping.
How You Think Changing
way you think can greatly impact a change in your career. Note
beliefs and thought patterns you learn early in girlhood that you need to reconsider and then eventually forget.
Some of these are: making miracles; taking full responsibility; obediently following instructions; viewing men in authority as father figures; limiting your possibilities; ignoring
quid pro quo (something that‘s exchanged in return for something else); skipping meetings; putting work ahead of your personal life; letting people waste your time; prematurely abandoning your career goals; ignoring
importance of network relationships; refusing perks; making up negative stories; and, striving for perfection.
How You Brand and Market Yourself
Marketing oneself is as important as marketing a specific brand. Think of yourself as a brand that’s needs to be marketed effectively. Alongside these come some important points that women need to particularly remember.
The following are some mistakes to avoid in marketing yourself: falling to define your brand; minimizing your work or position; using only your nickname or first name; waiting to be noticed; refusing high-profile assignments; being modest; staying in you safety zone; giving away your ideas; working in stereotypical roles or departments; ignoring feedback; and, being invisible;