Being an Emotional Victim

Written by Margaret Paul

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Title: Being an Emotional Victim Author: Margaret Paul, Ph.D. E-mail: Copyright: 2003 by Margaret Paul Web Address: Word Count: 740 Category: Relationships/Emotional Healing


None of us like to think of ourselves as victims. The term "victim" brings to mind a pathetic image of a person who is powerless. Therefore, It comes as a shock to most of us to realize how often we allow ourselves to be emotional victims. Having counseled individuals, couples, families and business partners for 35 years, I know that many of us are victims much ofrepparttar 126242 time without realizing it.

We are being victims anytime we give another personrepparttar 126243 power to define our worth. We are being victims anytime we make approval, sex, things, a substance, or an activity responsible for our feelings of happiness and lovability. We are being victims anytime we blame another for our feelings of fear, anger, hurt, aloneness, jealousy, disappointment, and so on. Whenever we choose to define ourselves externally, we are handing away power to others and we then feel controlled by their choices. When we choose to define ourselves internally through our connection with our spiritual Guidance, we move into personal power and personal responsibility. The moment we sincerely want to learn about our own intrinsic worth and what behavior is in our highest good, and we ask Spirit, we will receive answers. Most people do not realize how easy it is to receive answers from a spiritual Source. The answers will pop into your mind in words or pictures, or you will experiencerepparttar 126244 answers through your feelings, when your sincere desire is to learn.

We always have two choices: we can try to find our happiness, peace, safety, security, lovability and worth through people, things, activities, and substances; or we can feel joyful, peaceful, safe, secure, lovable and worthy through connection with a spiritual Source of love and compassion - taking loving care of ourselves and loving others. Whenever we choose to find our happiness and safety through others, then we have to try to control them to give us what we want. Then, when they don't come through for us inrepparttar 126245 way we hoped they would, we feel victimized by their choices.

Four steps to attracting more good luck

Written by David Leonhardt

The Luck Factor rips apartrepparttar notion that luck is something that just happens. Dr. Wiseman reports on over three years of scientific inquiry into what is often consideredrepparttar 126240 most unscientific topic of all. However, Dr. Wiseman suggests another reason forrepparttar 126241 lack of scientific research into luck:

"The situation is akin torepparttar 126242 old story ofrepparttar 126243 man who knows he dropped some treasure in one part ofrepparttar 126244 street but searches in another part becauserepparttar 126245 light is better there."

Dr. Wiseman's central thesis is that luck can be predicted and therefore controlled. He offers four "principles of luck", then explains how we can harness these principles to live luckier lives. The four principles are:

1. Maximize your chance opportunities 2. Listen to your lucky hunches 3. Expect good fortune 4. Turn bad luck into good

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