Beating Fear!Written by Lisa van den Berg
We've all felt it.
The vice like grip of adrenaline, pounding heart, racing pulse and tight throat, sweaty palms. Yep, that's what happens to us all when we succumb to FEAR!
Whether it be a spider, a speech in front of an audience, an exam, a near car crash or a bump in night, they all elicit same reaction.
When I stop to consider all physical symptoms that fear brings about, I am in awe at autonomic functions of our physical selves. The completely automatic reactions our bodies produce in order to activate 'Flight or Fight' response.
Think now, how in a non life-threatening situation, we can take control, with our minds, of not only our physical but also our emotional response to a fearful situation.
I've just re-read amazing book by Dr Susan Jeffers entitled 'Feel Fear...And Do It Anyway!' She talks about responses we should actively encourage ourselves to feel, if we want to overcome fearful situations.
The 'Fight or Flight' response to a dangerous situation is one of amazing systems body uses to survive. This is a brilliant example of how our subconscious conditioning can save us, without a contemplative thought process being involved.
However, when we allow that same non contemplative, automatic response to govern our everyday lives, we need to do something about it.
We need to realize that any barrier in our mind is there because of past conditioning. The subconscious is like a jigsaw puzzle. The initial pieces get placed in a certain pattern, typically by time we are 6, and get cemented in place. This 'jigsaw' forms our map of life. The subconscious now KNOWS not to touch a hot oven plate as well as KNOWing that you have certain shortcomings that you'll never be able to change!
Yin Yang Relationships - How to Find YOUR Perfect PartnerWritten by John Boe
Yin Yang is ancient, Chinese symbol for balance. It depicts strong attraction and complementary nature of opposites. Just as magnate and metal attract, while oil and water repel, we too are subject to these laws of nature in our relationships. For example, we have all met people for whom we feel an immediate affinity or for some unknown reason, an instant dislike. We are attracted or repelled by others instinctively. This intuitive feeling goes beyond physical attraction. In reality, what we are responding to is natural chemistry, or lack there of, between temperament styles. Understanding temperament styles will not only have a positive impact on way you see yourself, but it will also enhance your relationship with others. If you are single, it will provide you insight into selecting a compatible partner. If you are a parent, it can dramatically improve way you raise your children. If you are a salesperson, this information will significantly enhance your sales effectiveness by enabling you to build trust and rapport quickly.
Hippocrates, father of medicine, is credited with originating basic theory of four temperament styles. He concluded that our behavior style was determined genetically at birth rather than from external influences such as astrology or birth order. Hippocrates identified physiology of each of four temperament styles and concluded that we are born with a combination of four genetic influences: Choleric (Worker), Sanguine (Talker), Phlegmatic (Watcher) and Melancholy (Thinker). According to Hippocrates, extroverted Choleric (Worker) was short-tempered and ill natured, but had a dynamic desire for action! The extroverted Sanguine (Talker) was cheerful, outgoing and optimistic, but not very serious or organized. The introverted Phlegmatic (Watcher) was slow and sluggish, but could stay calm, cool and collected under pressure. The introverted Melancholy (Thinker) was deep, sad and depressive, but also a thoughtful, gifted and analytical genius.
It is important to note that we are born into our temperament style and that it is unrelated to race, gender, or age. Our personality is comprised of traits from all four styles but our primary and secondary styles will have most noticeable influence. By reviewing traits of four temperament styles listed below, you will be able to determine your primary and secondary style. For more information on this subject, read my article; What is Your Temperament Style? http://www.johnboe.com/What%20is%20Your%20Temperament%20Style.pdf