Be the Wind Behind Your Sails- Eliminate Your Self-Limiting BeliefsWritten by Beth A. Tabak
“Believe deep down in your heart that you are destined to do great things.” Joe PaternoImagine that you are a beautiful sail boat on high sea of life, and gusting wind is way in which you talk to yourself. Will your wind be behind your sails encouraging you forward so that you swiftly glide through sea on course and are able to scope many possibilities? Or is your inner critic boldly blasting strong gusts of wind in your face forcing you to step back, alter your course, and expend your energy with barely a glimpse ahead? Kudos to Christopher Columbus who was able to look beyond horizon. What could you accomplish if you were able to rid yourself of your inner critic and his/her comrade, self-limiting beliefs? If you were not limiting yourself, what would you be doing right now? How would your life be different? Hmmmm.... I know easier said than done. This week notice way you talk to yourself. Write down voice. Whose voice is it? More importantly, what is tone? Most critical, how can you change that voice if it is holding you back from what you want? Create a plan. Here are two exercises and one thought that may help. The first exercise is when you catch voice cutting you down or holding you back, immediately change what you are saying. Think about how you would talk to your best friend if she/he were in your shoes and use that voice with yourself. I used this method on way to a public speaking engagement about a year ago. Public speaking has been my greatest fear. As I was headed to all day event that I was hosting, my inner critic was on a roll. When I recognized it I turned talk around and said “You can do this...no problem....think of how great you will feel when it’s over...just like having a baby...it’s uncomfortable and rewards are awesome” and so on. The day was a success, I had fun, and continue public speaking. The second method is to picture yourself as a child. We all feel pretty much same inside as we did as a child, right? Imagine your inner critic talking to that child. It becomes easier to put a stop to it. Choose to stand up for that child within, and do not allow anyone to criticize or discourage him/her. And thought? We are all doing best that we can at any given moment. So congratulations! You are great right now and should not have any limits placed on what you can do and be.
| | I Love That...Shift Your Attitude to Gratitude and Stifle Your Inner CriticWritten by Beth A. Tabak
As I began my morning jog one day last week I found myself really struggling. It was hot, sticky humid, my legs felt like each one had a sand bag strapped to it, mosquitoes were out in swarms. Ugh! I recognized that I had to shift my attitude or there was no way I would make it. A phrase came to me that I started to play with...”I Love That...” I got so carried away with it that before I knew it I suddenly noticed I was within yards of finishing. The run had become effortless. My attitude had shifted away from being self-absorbed into gratitude. If there is any way you can apply this to something you are struggling with, try it! The shift in attitude can free you. It’s quite fun! This is not exactly how it went, but what I could recall. I Love That...When I walk and jog I am living a healthy lifestyle. I Love That...When I cross finish line, I will feel awesome! I Love That...When I start off day with exercise, I start off day with a success. I Love That...The more I exercise easier it becomes to breathe. I Love That...When I exercise my clothes slip right on. I Love That...When my muscles ache after a run its a sign that I’m growing...becoming stronger. I Love That...When I exercise I become more tone. I Love That...Exercising gives me more energy through day. I Love That...I have two legs to exercise on. I Love That...I can breathe. I Love That...If I don’t cross finish line I will have gotten closer to my goal and will be stronger because of it. I Love That...I have been given gift of another day. I Love That...when I am nervous before a speech it's a sign that I am about to stretch beyond my comfort zone which always leads to interesting opportunities. I Love That...Planes fly over me all day carrying people to where they want to go...safely. I Love That...I can hear sound of traffic on freeway ...the sound of people going to their jobs. I Love That...Some of those people are going to jobs to help other people get jobs. I Love That...I know someone who while looking for a job himself has taken on role of helping a small group of unemployed individuals find jobs (no strings attached). I Love That...When someone needs help, there are thousands of people, organizations, and churches who are looking for them, because they want to help people in need. I Love That...We have FREEDOM! I Love That...Wherever I am...wherever I go...God is with me.
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